Help - Grandma Issue!

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Registered: 05-22-2007
Help - Grandma Issue!
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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 9:17pm
My five year old son has recently started saying he doesn't want his grandmother around. She is his only grandparent and has always been an active part of his life. The first time he did it I reminded him what an important part of our family his grandmother is and to be respectful. But he has said it a few more times including tonight when he said (to her) that he didn't want her to go eat dinner with us and could she just go home. I was mortified and my mother got very upset. I felt torn on disciplining him and comforting her. Is this a phase? Is he just being five? He says nothing has happened and that he isn't mad at her but we're all puzzled. I think he realized tonight that he hurt her feelings and he apologized. I don't want to make a bigger deal out of this than it is but I am concerned and I know she is, too. Any thoughts are appreciated!
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Registered: 10-04-2004
Wed, 05-23-2007 - 11:46am
Just a thought could your DS just be wanting some one on one time with you and your DH? Try finding some way to spend some time with DS either playing in the back yard or doing a project together. He may feel as if when Grandma is around the discussions are more grown up and the attention is off of him. You also might set up some bonding time for him to do something special with Grandma. Have her take him out for Ice cream or some where she can give him some one on one attention too. Keep it simple. Some times kids just have funny ways of seeking out this type of attention.
Joan