Help with mean 4 year old

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-31-2007
Help with mean 4 year old
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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 2:10pm
I have a son that is turning 4 on Nov. 1st. He seems to be a very angry child. He yells and screams and hits. He slams doors and hits walls and throws toys. He have tried taking stuff away from him and everything and nothing seems to work. We are expecting our third child in december and im afraid he might try to hurt the baby. Any suggestions on what i should do. I get so mad and angry and frustrated cause i keep thinking that its something that i have done or caused. I just dont know what to do anymore. Please help with suggestions. Thank you
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2003
Sun, 11-11-2007 - 3:24pm

Hi! Sorry to hear about your son. Is this a recent development? It could be his way of venting his frustration over something or a means to get your attention. Is there something that consistently makes him angry? It sounds like he just doesn't know how to express his emotions. Have you talked to him after one of his angry spells to see why he did it? Maybe he just needs the right words to help express how he's feeling. Next time he's angry I would take him to his room (or somewhere quiet) and just soothe him until he calms down and then talk to him about how he's feeling. Give him words that he can use and then tell him that instead of acting out he can just use his words to tell you how he feels and tell him that it's inappropriate to act the way he was.

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