Help! Problems in Junior Kindergarten

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Registered: 09-17-2007
Help! Problems in Junior Kindergarten
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Sun, 10-26-2008 - 11:00am

Hello,

I'm new to the board and I've been reading some of the recent posts. What a great resource.

I have a four yr old (07/23/2004) who began Junior Kindergarten in September. He is in school 5 days per week 9- 3:30. This schedule is not new for him. He was in preschool for 18 months prior to going into JK. The facility is also not new as the the school and Preschool are in the same building.

He is having difficulty in the following areas.

1) Listening and following instruction / rules.
2) Consequences - if he breaks a rule, for example pushing in line at the drinking fountain, the consequence is that he has to go to the back of the line, he has had temper tantrum when the consequence is enforced.
3)Defiance - phrases such as "I don't want to" or "I don't feel like it."

At home, our son is able to follow the rules and meet our expectations. At times, he does break down when we discipline him but have always felt that his tantrums were age appropriate and part and parcel of growing and maturing. Because these episodes are not daily at home, we have not considered it a problem, however, these temper tantrums are more frequent and more severe at school.

We have instituted a chart to document his successful days at school with goals and rewards for achieving better listening and behaviour. In my opinion, he is making progress however, the school seems to be of the opinion that he is not moving along fast enough. I'm starting to become resentful of the school and the teachers, I find that they have expectations that are too high and are setting us up to fail. At the same time, I do understand that 16 (11 boys and 5 girls!!!) 4 year olds is difficult to manage and one child causing daily disruptions is not fun.

So, I'd like some feedback / thoughts on this situation and welcome questions. What is normal for this age? How long does it usually take to see some behaviour modification / improvement? What are reasonable expectations?

Thank you so much!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 2:49pm

Hi Natalie.

It has been my experience that Kindergarten is a lot more structured than preschool. Preschool has more opportunities to goof off, have fun. There is a lot of expectations placed on these kindergarteners. I love the class Lindsay is in but I can see the areas she had trouble in while she was adjusting to the 5 days a week of 4 hours of school. Next week we add in 45 more minutes and that is going to be tough on her as she is done by noon right now. There was/is more play time built in to the preschool routine.

Do they get reminders about the rules? Could you go over what is expected of him before school starts each day? Maybe not all of them but the ones that are giving him trouble?

What are the consequences for refusing to do his work?

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Registered: 09-17-2007
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 7:17pm

Thank you for your response.

1) Yes, they are reminded about the rules, I've been told that he openly defies them and then has a tantrum when the consequences are enforced.

2) We are reinforcing each morning.

He is making progress as the notes home are less frequent. Their main problem is that his tantrums last a prolonged period of time (and my opinion is that if that is the case, they aren't handling the situation well as this is unheard of in our home).

I'm actually pretty frustrated with the school.

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