here we go again i need help

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Registered: 03-31-2008
here we go again i need help
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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 8:07pm

here we go again. ok my son will be 5 end of july, i also have a 12yr, 9yr, 7yr and 1 month old too. well my almost 5 yr old lives with his dad and stepmom and 3 brothers. anyway last fall his dad said he had pulled his 7yr old brother pants down. took him to counseling and i went to of course with stepmom too. anyway nothing came about it and hes been coming weekly one day and an overnight with my other children when they visit. theyve been doing this for a while now. well its been 3 weeks since ive seen him. one week baby was in hospital, next week was camping/ fathers day. and now week 3. and ive been told he touched some kid in the bathroom this week. so idont know if hell get to spend the night anymore. custody papers say 1 night a week and every other weekend, he hasnt let me because of past problems with home and inconsistent visits(some were because he wouldnt let me see him). anyway now i dont know what to do or say to this sons dad, or what to expect. im supposed to see him on sunday, and im sure his dad will want to talk then. im at my wits end and i feel that if he trys to withhold visits or overnights getting mean and holding him to the papers he had drawn up (because his wife said so to protect him Bi..) and ive been nice and gone with whatever because of some of my circumstances in past but ive been stable for 2+ yrs and he still does this. so what do I do? ugh


help please,


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 06-21-2008 - 12:32pm
Hope, I don't really know how to help. I do think you need to go talk to your lawyer. Your lawyer should be able to help get you the custody you want and according to your papers are entitled to.

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Registered: 03-31-2008
Sat, 06-21-2008 - 5:44pm

thanks. i am going to try to find a good lawyer, one that will hear me and help, its a matter of finding the right one. its hard when you dont have family to help and hardly any friends, (i think i have maybe 2 that i can say are friends)

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 10:42am

{{hope}} everyone needs a support system.

Are there people you trust or respect who might be able to recommend a good lawyer? If you go to talk to someone at a family law referral place (why I can't I think what those places are called?) an important question to ask would be "who would you see if you were the one looking for a good family lawyer?" I know they are not able to recommend one attorney over another, they are suppose to give you a list of names to chose from but I have always found that if you phrase your question in the way that asks, who would they personally go see you get the better or more experienced attorneys.

When I worked as an adjuster there was an attorney that I really didn't like going up against but I realized if I was on the other side, I'd want him as my attorney. He was good, knew his stuff and was looking out for the best interest of his clients. Most of them are but there was something about him and the way he worked that set him above a lot of the other attorneys in the field. It sounds to me like you want someone like him on your side.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

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