hitting/kicking at pre-school/daycare

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Registered: 01-14-2007
hitting/kicking at pre-school/daycare
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Mon, 08-18-2008 - 5:37pm
wow...OK, so I haven't been on here since I was pregnant with my dd almost a year ago.......forgot what a wealth of info was here.
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Registered: 01-04-2007
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 12:52am

Hi,


This is my first time to this board but I saw your post and just had to comment.



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Registered: 01-14-2007
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 7:43pm
Thank you thank you thank you!!!
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Registered: 01-04-2007
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 9:38pm

yeah .. I am glad that w/ all my frustration .. i can still help someone else a little!! :)


YAY for hands to himself today!! But don't think it's the end of it ... he will test the waters again i am sure...lol ... don't you just love it!


And ... it may sound mean ... but seriously telling her that I was calling the parents/kids and telling them it was ok ... that worked. lol


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 2:50pm

We worked with Lindsay to find things she could say and do the express her anger and frustration. We talked about and acted out what she could do when someone grabbed a toy she was playing with. We did the same for when she wanted something and the other child didn't want to share. And again when people tried to help her and she didn't want help. We talked about what she could do when she felt herself getting upset -- she removes herself from the situation now. For a while she was going to sit in the library corner but now she can just take a few steps away, turn her back and is able to calm herself down. Whenever we know she is going to be in a situation where things have upset her (being crowded or pushed or too many kids, etc.) we talk about what she can do when things happen. We stress that she can always let the other child have the toy and go talk to the teacher about it. She isn't going to get any where if she just stands there and yells, cries or hits the other child. She will be the one in trouble and she still won't have the toy back.

I didn't punish for it at home because often it happened too far removed from when I heard about it and it wouldn't make sense to her why she was getting another punishment. She wouldn't connect why she was getting time out or loss of a privilege at home to what she did at school.