I feel my boys are out of control!
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|Thu, 05-24-2007 - 10:59am|
I am a mom of three. I have one daughter who is almost 9, and two boys ages 6 and 4 1/2. I love them all very much. I am having so much trouble with the boys. They are becoming destructive. My husband says boys will be boys. However, I won't accept that kind of behavior. My boys don't listen to me very well. They are constantly in time out. They will go to their "Naughty Spot" and stay there. However, it is just a temporary fix and then they do the same thing all over again. They are extremely active. I can never seem to get my 6 year old to calm down. I try to offer things like doing a quiet activity like coloring or reading a book. However, he does not like to sit still and do those things. Just in the last two days both of my boys broke a picture frame and tore the curtains and curtain rod out of the wall in their bedroom because they decided to use the curtains as a tarzan swing! They seem to not have a care in the world when they break something of mine. The other thing is in the last few months they have been using bad language like name calling, and saying things like "Stupid", "Idiot", "Shut Up" and more. They are also always shouting. My husband and I are very concious about what we say around our kids. We do not curse or say anything bad. I have never had this trouble with my daughter and still don't. I have never had trouble with my soon to be 6 year old up until the last couple of months. I don't know if other kids from school are contributing to their behavior.
I have been trying to teach them what is acceptable behavior and what is not. For the most part they are good kids. I have tried so hard myself to deal with their behavior in a calm and rational manner. I am trying to have them gain some better control over their own behavior. Is that possible for their age? I am at my wits end with their over-activeness and destructive behavior. I am looking for solution that will result less time outs and more happiness for my husband, myself and my kids. Any advice would really help!