i really am the devil... w/no costume!!

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Registered: 03-30-1999
i really am the devil... w/no costume!!
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 11:24am

has anyone ever not let their child (young) NOT go trick-or-treating because they didn't eat dinner?

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Registered: 04-19-2007
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 11:13pm
my 4 year old doesnt eat a lot ...she just grazes. during dinner we tell her that she cannot have anything to drink until she eats half of dinner. we dont cater to her "wants" during meal times. she eats what we eat and if she doesnt like it then she will NOT get anything else. we save her plate. then if she says she is hungry she can have her dinner to eat. she has learned that way. i hope that helps.
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Sun, 11-11-2007 - 9:47pm

I think the consequences need to be age appropriate to the child based on your discretion. In other words, if you feel that your child is mature enough to comprehend what the consequences you're laying out for your DS then it's okay. You specifically told your DS that if he did not eat dinner then he would not be able to go trick-or-treating. Do you think he "understood" what that meant? If so, then he chose not to obey. He might also be testing you. If you and your DH don't typically follow through with your threats then he might not have been taking you seriously....now he will. I don't think it's appropriate for your family to judge your parenting skills. You and your DH made this decision together and that's all that matters. You are a wonderful mother, you wouldn't care enough to discipline your child if you weren't so don't let others make you second guess yourself! I hope you don't get down on yourself for too long!