"I want..." & spoiled behavior

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Registered: 11-08-2003
"I want..." & spoiled behavior
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 11:03am

I am new to this board, so here's a brief intro. I have two children- DD is 4 1/2, DS is almost 3. Thy have a love/hate relationship, which I guess is normal. DD has started the "I want" stage for everything she sees. We did a behavior chart for one of her coveted items and she earned enough stars to get the item. She played with it for 5 minutes! Still doesn't really play with it after 3 weeks.

Problem is, now she wants something else or "I want that for my birthday". I want to teach her about $ and the value of earning something. That seemed to fail miserably the first time. She also doesn't play with most of the toys she has, just picks fights with her brother.

Funny thing is, I separate them and they can't wait to be together again.

I feel that she is spoiled and I know I am to blame. She does say please and thank you but doesn't appreciate what she has/gets. Example- she ate all of her dinner last night so we took them to Dairy Queen as a treat. She ordered a strawberry sundae, ate two bites, saw something else then proceeded to throw a fit because she couldn't have the other item. I took her immediately to the car so my DH and DS could enjoy their ice cream.

To say I am frustrated is an understatement. I work part time and the kids go to school 2 days a week.

Any tips??

TIA, Michelle

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