If your child were afraid of heights,...

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Registered: 06-01-2003
If your child were afraid of heights,...
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Sat, 06-14-2003 - 2:02pm

If your child were afraid of heights, what would you do....?



  • try to help your child overcome the fear ASAP through making him/her climb high
  • allow the child to stay in low-lying areas instead where he/she felt safe


You will be able to change your vote.


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Registered: 06-01-2003
Sat, 06-14-2003 - 2:08pm
The reason I posted this poll is because I saw an article in a magazine last year where a little boy (I believe he was 3.5 or 4 yrs old) was very afraid of heights, and he was afraid to climb this "wall" at the park. It was about the height of a slide, and it had foothold "rocks" big enough for a child to climb up fairly safely. Anyway, the parents decided it was unacceptable for him to fear heights. So they took him to the park 4 or 5 times a week and made him climb on the wall. He would cry hysterically every time for 2 months. But eventually he climbed higher and higher, one "rock" at a time. After 3 months, he could climb to the very top and no longer cried. He was proud of himself of course, and the parents were proud too. However they added that he is still afraid of heights such as their balcony at home.

SO this got me wondering, what would I do in that situation? I would NOT do what they did. I am not saying that it was right or wrong because honestly I can see both sides of the issue...but I just know that I would never push my daughter into something that had her crying hysterically and dreading what should be fun (a trip to the park). If she didn't want to climb on the wall I would definitely not push the issue. If it were something I considered "serious" like her not wanting to wipe when she uses the restroom (hygiene concern) or running off in traffic or something, OF COURSE I would push the issue. But to me that just seemed a little twisted. Maybe I'm too lenient. I can't wait to see the poll results.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 06-14-2003 - 5:55pm
I couldn't vote, because neither one in MY opinion was the right thing to do. I would not make my child face their fear of height, but I would continually offer them situations where they could over come them gradually with my help. For instance going up a slightly higher slide with me and then maybe climbing on play ground equipment that was higher

Leesa

Leesa

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Registered: 06-01-2003
Sat, 06-14-2003 - 10:18pm
Leesa, I agree with you. That is probably what I would do too, if it happened in our family...try to offer her more secure and appealing ways to overcome the fear. Actually your post reminded me of my DD being afraid of a neighbor's (very large) cat when she was a toddler, and after playing with some kittens and a long conversation, she finally became unafraid. Silly comparison, but similar. I probably should have phrased the poll a bit differently! Thanks for your post! Gretchen