is my child ready for kindergarten

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is my child ready for kindergarten
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Thu, 05-31-2007 - 7:01am

ok... i'm about to be 24 in june; military spouse, i have a 4 yrold son & he will be starting kindergarten this year. now i feel he is a little behind. he didn't go to preschool, cuz we didn't know about it until february . oh he also didn't go to daycare or nursery or anything .
we go over his alphabets, numbers, colors & shapes every other day or so. read to him everyday well... honestly might skip a day or 2 during the week.

he knows his name & how old he is & knows that he's a boy and not a girl & up, down left right... he can count to 10 70% of the time. doesn't know all of his abc's. so he can't spell his name. he can 'sorta' write it if he is following a letter/shape. but from memory, no. recognizes some letters like H:sometimes, and S and O and P. doesn't know his colors or shapes, except circle, heart & star. he can match the colors to associated objects. and match shapes to the other shapes on the paper. he'll groups the magnets on the fridge in colors, but don't know the colors. i still have to correct him if he points out something & it's the wrong word for that item. he knows most of his body parts... eyes, chin, cheeks, teeth, tongue. he can dress himself... although sometimes i may need to help him 'untangle'/ flip his clothes inside-out. he use the bathroom by himself... although he could work on 'wiping' a bit more. but he still grabs his 'seat-attachment' to use the bathroom. . he knows emotions: happy, mad, sad, crying... he knows cute. he knows the phone needs to be answered when it rings. knows about money, but not in a sense where saving is involved. not sure if he knows about strangers... sometimes he gets shy, sometimes he waves at random people. if he's in a 'i-want-my-way mode' then he won't be afraid to walk away from me. don't know if he knows his way home. is it a good idea to put something in his pocket or shoe some info just in case he gets lost? or does that scream identity theft? oh also he has 80% good manners, but as in over-activeness... i think he will have trouble listening to other people i don't know. he doesn't really listen to me all the time. might be cuz i'm his mother? umm he likes to wrestle, but very gentle with kids younger than him . but if they're older than he'll be a little rougher... if he accidentally hurts someone, he'll most of the time say sorry & give them a hug/kiss. but hopefully he'll listen to his teachers. i'm so scared that i'm going to get called in or something cause my child is over-active & won't listen....

what should he need to know?
i'm married, but hubby is out fighting for our country right now, so i'm left to do all the registration/school process by myself & trying to run around getting all the info that i can get.

is he good to go or he behind? how much behind?

thank u in advance!!!




Edited 5/31/2007 9:21 am ET by sehana

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Thu, 05-31-2007 - 9:44am

He does seem behind but honestly, I think I'm probably just comparing him to my son and his friends. I think you still have some time though to get him up to speed. You have a few months. I would focus on letter recognition and writing his name. If he gets that, he'll be just fine.

At this age, the kids come in a wide variety of abilities. Some are reading full books, some can't recognize a single word. Some kids are doing adding and subtraction and other kids just don't get it quite yet.

So think positive, work with him for the next few months, and then send him off to Kindergarten!

C.

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Fri, 06-01-2007 - 12:59am

A lot of it depends on what the school's expectations are. A friend and I live near each other but are in diff counties. Her school system is hard-pushing, so kids who can't read/write by kindergarten are "behind." My school system expects to teach the basics to the kids, so a child who can't recognize all his letters is considered just fine to enter kindergarten.

You might want to talk both to the school (kindergarten teacher, if possible) as well as talk to some of the local moms about their experiences with the local school.

A child doesn't need to go to preschool in order to go to kindergarten. I think what kindie teachers like about children who've gone to preschool is that they are already accustomed to listening to a teacher and working in groups, but it's definitely not a requirement.

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Fri, 06-01-2007 - 6:38pm

Can you ask your local elementary school to give him an assessment? That might give you a better idea of where he stands and what, if anything, you need to work on with him. My inclination is to tell you to send him. I think that the kids who benefit from waiting a year to start kindergarten are the ones who are socially immature and are not ready for the learning process yet. In other words, it isn't necessarily what he knows right now that determines whether he should go, but rather what his capacity for learning is.

Take care (and thank your husband for me),

Susan :)

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Fri, 06-01-2007 - 6:58pm


hi everyone! thank you for replying. i actually went into the elementry school today & registered him for K. this coming year. i also spoke to a speech & development person at the school. unfortunately there are no 'pre-assessment' type screening here & they can't do one-on-ones anymore cuz it's so close to the end of the year... but they told me to go ahead and register him & speak with them at the beginning of the school year and we'll see what he's capable of once he starts. cuz so-called once they are in a learning environment, they'll get the hang of it sooner or later... hopefully he'll be ok/hopefully he'll listen. thank you all for your responses. appreciate the advice & appreciate the thanks for hubbby. :)

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Sat, 06-02-2007 - 8:09pm

Hi There,


When will he be 5? What is the cut-off where you live?


My oldest DD turned

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Mon, 06-04-2007 - 2:53pm

From one military spouse to another, thanks for all you do as a spouse so your hubby CAN fight for us on a bigger level!!!!


As for your son, they usually do a placement test for Kindergarten but I wouldn't worry too much.

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Mon, 06-04-2007 - 4:59pm


i believe the cut-off is also sep30 here... i mean he seems excited to go to school. i just hope he can sit still for it and listen to the teachers. i'm sure he'll catch up acedemically sometime or another. he was pretty observant when we had visited the school.

yes as spouses of the military, i believe we carry the most understanding & the most supportive qualities, that our hubbies need.
that's is what i asked them, i think i referred to it as 'pre-assessment'... ha ha. but of course this base doesn't have that kind of 'service'. and no not a civ school, but dodds. my hubby and i were doddents ha ha. I'm sorry i don't know what KWIM is.
but no tellin when he comes back really . hopefully he comes back 'intact' and SAFE!. thank you.

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Tue, 06-05-2007 - 12:19pm

If you find that your ds just doesn't get the hang of it (all he needs to know) by the end of kindergarten, you can always hold ds back for another year of kindergarten.

We did that with one ds (my other 3 kids were advanced, but this ds struggled), and it was a really good move. The school had actually ok'd advancing him, but I knew that he would continue to struggle each year and always be playing catch-up and getting discouraged. When he repeated kindergarten, it really helped him get a better grasp on what he should know, and he now performs at the top of his class.

I'm still not sure whether he should have been held back a year before beginning or whether he needed an extra year of instruction, but either way, as long as you pay attention to how your ds is doing and respond accordingly, he should be okay.

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Tue, 06-05-2007 - 2:49pm

i just want to thank every1 for their ears, well eyes & for the advice that was given & will keep an eye on DS. oh by the way does that mean ... i don't realy know what these abbreviations are.
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 5:41pm

DH - Dear Husband
DD - Dear Daughter (unless you are on the Harry Potter board, then DD means 'Dumbledore!)
DS - Dear Son
KWIM - Know what I mean?
LOL - Laughing our loud
LMBO - Laughing my butt off
BTDT - Been there, done that.

Hmmmm... that's all I can think of for now. Hope that helps. Oh yeah! HTH (hope that helps!) hee hee!

Susan

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