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|Thu, 06-28-2007 - 9:58am|
Hi all! I need some serious advice, so I hope this is the right place to find it (I will be posting on several boards as I’m not sure which ones are active and I am hoping for some quick responses!)
I am 18 years old, just graduated from high school, and I have taken a full time babysitting position this summer. I will babysit Taylor (girl, 5 years old) and Ryan (boy, 2 years old) for 4 days a week all summer from about 7:30am until 4:00. Here is the problem…
Taylor is a very, very clingy girl and is extremely upset with not having her family members there. She talks about how she misses her mom all the time. Ever since she was a baby, she has had her grandmother babysitting her but now the grandma is getting too old to be chasing them around so they wanted to find a teenager. Taylor is a very shy and nervous person, but only when her parents aren’t around. She is supposed to be going to JK next year and is absolutely adamant that she is not going.
For most of the day, she is very sweet and will play around with her brother and I, but usually once a day (I have babysat twice so far) she has a meltdown. She refuses to get dressed unless her mom is there, she refuses to eat, she refuses to go outside for more than 5 minutes, she refuses to do crafts. She won’t do ANYTHING because her mom isn’t there.
The main issue on the first day happened when I tried to get her dressed for the day. She ran screaming and crying to her room and wouldn’t come down for an hour and a half.
Yesterday (day 2) I knew then that getting dressed would be an issue, so I didn’t press it. But then she and Ryan decided they wanted to go swimming in the baby pool and when I went to get her bathing suit, she jumped right in in her pajamas. I didn’t want to create an issue and she was already soaking wet, so I let her stay a little in her pajamas but she did not to eventually change out of them as they were soaking wet and she had a screaming fit then.
And then there’s no eating. I have made her everything I can think of and she absolutely refuses. I even tried chocolate bars just to get something in her and she says, “No, I will wait for Mommy to get home”.
So now I am getting really frustrated and don’t want to lose my job over her. I have babysat a TON of kids and have never seen anything like this, to this extreme. Her Mother is very protective of her and calls several times in the day, worried. She called me this morning before I came over and said she was staying home from work because she had “the flu”, which I think just means she didn’t want to leave Taylor.
So, if you have gotten through this huge post, DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE???