Need help with hostile 4 year old
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|Thu, 07-03-2003 - 2:52pm|
My son is 4 1/2 and has always been a very bright and VERY intense child. His behavior lately has been TERRIBLE! He is physically aggressive, mouthy, sassy, yells at us and has zero patience. I am at my whits end and I'm at the point that I don't look forward to the day with him, I almost dread it when he wakes up in the morning. He is an absolute angel when we are doing activities that he enjoys however.
He has a 14 month old sister who is now receiving a lot of attention because she is walking, talking, etc... He told me a few weeks ago that he feels left out and gets no attention. I talked with him about that and my husband and I have been making special efforts to take him by ourselves to do things with just him. Every Thursday, my mom takes my daughter for the day and I spend time with just Corey going to the pool, movies or something. This hasn't seemed to have made any difference.
I get sucked into the argument game with him and then I yell and then I feel guilty. I cry every time I think about it. I am so afraid that he will be like this forever that it has me scared to death. I feel like a terrible mom.
I just bought a book called 1-2-3 Magic, which is supposed to be an effective way to discipline children without getting involved in the emotion of it all. Has anyone used this or heard of it?
Thanks for time and any reassurance that I'm not alone would be appreciated.