Need some sports advice

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Need some sports advice
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Wed, 06-18-2008 - 3:37pm

Hi all,


I have a ds that will be 5 on Sunday (6/22). This is his first year at t-ball. So far he has had 4 games. The first two he did great. Got out there with his team, batted just fine and was all excited. Now the last two games he has had meltdowns in the middle of the game. All of sudden he will just start crying out of the blue. I've tried to find out what's wrong but all I get is "i cried just because". I can't get an answer out of him. Any ideas on how I can get him back out there to play without the meltdowns. He does fine if I go out on the field with. However, my husband just gets mad and tells him to just get out there and play and to quit being a "cry baby". Then that starts an arguement between me and my husband because I can't stand for him to talk to him like that.


Any Advice?


Thanks,
Ethensmom

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Registered: 04-26-2007
Wed, 06-18-2008 - 11:17pm
Although I don't have any experience with the whole sports thing just yet, (my DS is 4 and wont start playing until Fall) but maybe your DS is overwhelmed by the whole thing. Maybe its the "stress" of playing in front of an "audience"????? Or maybe he just gets very tired. My DS does not take naps and hasn't since he was 2 yro, but some days he just melts down for no reason because he is over tired. We live in the south and the summers especially can be VERY HOT. When he has been playing outside all day, he can totally get worn down by the heat. I would try to talk to the coaches and see if they offer any advice. They are used to dealing with a group of younger ones and maybe they can offer some help for your son. I understand what you mean about your DH. Mine is the same way..."you're fine....don't cry like a girl....etc.... " its very disheartening to me as well.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 12:58pm

I'm not sure what would work either.

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 2:07pm

I haven't noticed anything happening around that time. It's almost like he's getting nervous to go out there or something. I wish there was just something that would calm him down. I've even tried bribing, it hasn't worked. Thanks for all the great advice.


Thanks,


Kristi

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 2:57pm
Do you think it would help to talk to him about it before the game?




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Registered: 06-24-2005
Thu, 06-19-2008 - 4:13pm

I've tried to talk to him. I try emphasizing doing it on his own and not crying. He says he won't cry and will do it all by himself (me not having to out on the field)