Please, Please help me understand my son
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|Thu, 08-28-2008 - 5:49pm|
My son will be 4 Sept 18. He is into everything, and anything. He purposely waits for me to be doing something else in another room sometimes so he can do something he knows is bad, but he does anyways.
I'll just run down the list of some of the things he does daily
-We live on the second floor of an apartment building. If I happen to have the balcony door open on a cool day he purposely throws something off so he can run down and get it. Sometimes I can catch him, other times I can't. Why don't I run after him you ask? The more I chase him, the funnier things get and I'm afraid he'll run into the street.
-He's constantly into rooms he shouldn't be, like the bathroom. Day before yesterday I was vacuuming and I noticed he was rather quiet. When I went to check on him, he was in his room with the carpet deoderizer. He'd gone into the kitchen while I was in another room vacuuming, taken it from under the sink and dumped it all on his floor. He was driving his trucks through it. I took it away, reprimanded him and went back to finish vacuuming. A few minutes later I went back to check on him, and he was sitting there with a spray bottle of Oxy clean that I use to clean the bathrooms. He was spraying it into the pile of carpet deoderizer.
-He's constatly into my room, in my jewelry, I can't count how many pairs of earrings he's lost. I can't put my good jewelry into there because he gets into it and I can't risk losing my wedding rings etc.
-He's part monkey, constantly into the kitchen, up on the countertops. I even caught him up on the fridge top once. He was digging into the cupboards above the fridge. I can't tell you how many food related items he's gotten into and ruined because I can't keep him out.
-Forget him listening to me, him and his 5 year old sister (who started kindergarten last week) totally tune me out and it's next to impossible to get them to listen. They scream, run around and just bounce off the walls, especially at bedtime. It's like they've taken a drug and they're so hyper they're litterally bouncing from one wall to the other. Sometimes it's next to impossible to get them to settle down to goto sleep.
-Don't even get me started on getting him or him and her to clean up their room. It's impossible.
I feel like a bad Mother. I can't even catch my own son while out in public for fear that he will run and hurt himself. He's run out into a busy parking lot all the while looking back at me and laughing because I'm trying to catch him. I am embarrassed to be seen in public with them, but moreso my son. Everything is a joke for him.
I've tried time outs, sending him to his room, asking him to stop, yelling, spanking, consequences, taking toys/things away. Saying he won't go somewhere that he likes going. Making a chart and saying if you do X all week you'll get a prize for being a good boy. I feel I've tried it all, and it's just not working. Everything I do is a joke. It's all funny, no matter what.
I'm at the end of my rope and I don't know what to do to make my son listen. My daughter is a little better since she started school. At least I don't have to go through it daily with the two of them anymore. It's just my son. I'm about ready to pack it all in and say goodbye. That's how bad it is. I just don't know what to do and I wish someone could just turn a switch and say it's going to be ok now. I'm so stressed at the end of the day. I can't enjoy my kids, because I just want them to goto bed so I can be rid of them. I feel bad for thinking that, but they just put me through so much emotional and mental stress daily.