Pre-K 4 Issues....

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Pre-K 4 Issues....
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Thu, 09-23-2010 - 2:55pm

Today I had a conference with Ryan's teacher. they wanted to meet with me before the Nov. conferences to discuss a few things. I figured it about about the skills he does not have like holding a pencil etc. When she said the director was going to join us in the meeting I knew this was not going to go well.

After about 4 weeks of school they feel Ryan would do better in Pre-K 3's because he just is not where the other kids are. He is struggling to keep up with and just confused on the structure of the day. I know he is on the younger side and was behind in some area's but I honestly thought he would be fine moving up even if he was a bit behind because I knew we were going to hold him back next year. Well he is struggling too much that he will get nothing out of the program at all and would do better moving back to the 3's where he could flourish in that program. I was reluctant to keep him back last year because he would have the same teacher. Well they have 2 lead teacher which team together and teach alternating days of the week so he would get the feel of having to totally different teachers and curriculum. DH is concerned he would be home board after the holidays so he will speak to the director about this.

At this point I think we have decided to move him back because it's best for him. Of course I am devastated because he has to leave all his friends and have to make new ones. He has to start all over in trusting another set of teachers. Then I feel bad because I don't think he will understand why he has to move. I am sad because i hate that he has to go through this. In general most people are nice but there are few people who go to the school that will say mean things about my son to each other. I don't want to be the butt of other peoples conversations. So that is what is going on in a nut shell with my son.

What would you do if you where faced with the same thing?


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Registered: 10-30-2007
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 11:36am
Thats a hard one. Honestly, in your shoes, if I had an option to move him to another school (since he's going to have to make all new friends anyways) - I'd consider it. Esp if adults are saying harsh things about your child? Thats unacceptable. I would definitely talk to the director to see if things can get "fixed" - but if he's a bit behind, then staying back would probably be better.. but it also depends on how much is behind on? Is it something you can work with him at home... and maybe the teachers can give a bit more assistance with at school? ((hugs)) this all sounds frustrating for you.. I hope you can get a good solution figured out!! Keep us updated..


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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 2:23pm

I second Amber's suggestions. Is there anyway you could work with Ryan at home. If the director of the school talked only about issues in holding the pencil, did you get some buffer time to work on and see his progress in

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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 4:08pm

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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 5:27pm

Holding a pencil?!??! From what I have read, handwriting is extremely varied at this age. Some kids can do it, and some just plain can't yet! That seems crazy that this teacher is making such an issue out of it. All of my child development books stress that letter formation and handwriting is one of THE most varied milestones, in terms of age that children can write. Can he dress himself, put puzzles together, open his locker, etc.? Can he feed himself "correctly" with utensils? These things seem to be the more important fine-motor milestones, according to the books I have read. Not all of us will be good with pen and pencil! And hey -- by the time our 4s get up