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|Wed, 03-26-2003 - 1:29am|
Lately Joshua has been having a *hard* time going to friends homes to play. He doesn't have a problem playing with them, his problem is not being at his own home, and away from me. We don't do this very often, but sometimes I would like a break and to be able to get certain things done that I can't do very well with two boys around. Anytime his buddy asks him to come over to play at his house, he tells him, "Let me think about it for a minute or two first." Then he always tells him, "No, not today". This has only just recently started. It used to be that he would ask me almost every day if he could go to his buddies house.
He has had two meltdowns going to school also. Monday I had to bring him back home because he just would NOT calm down. It started when we got to school and he realized he had forgotten his show-n-tell. He wanted me to go back home, get something, and then come back to school. Well, I wasn't doing that. First of all we were late to start with, and secondly it would take me a half hour to do just that. Well, he flipped out! Crying, being clingy, and loudly telling me he was NOT staying! The director (and also his teacher) was blown away, as was I! He has *never* done this before (he has forgotten show-n-tell before). Well, Wednesday we had another (smaller) meltdown. His buddy's mom was bringing him that day and he was fine until she pulled into the driveway. He then decided he was NOT going to school. He "hates school anymore!" Says he doesn't have fun there anymore. I finally got him calmed down enough to go. I called the teacher and asked her if she has noticed anything different at school lately. She told me she has not, but was doing a new assignment lately. (She does this with all the "graduating to Kindergarden" students...only once or twice a week). Around 9 she tells them what their assignment is for the day and they are told it needs to be done before they go out to play at 11. She doesn't say another word about it until snack time (at 10) and then just reminds them that they have an hour left before outside time and whoever hasn't done it yet may want to think about going over to the table to do it. Half of the kids will do it right away and the others will wait til the last minute to get it done. She remembers Joshua getting his done early (except the first time). She tells me he has no problem getting his work done, and is usually one of the first to get it done (not just the assignment but any work). He has no problems doing the work itself either.
She also mentioned that a lot of kids, around this time of year, get stressed out about the realization of going to Kindergarden, and it comes out in a lot of different ways. He first told me that he didn't want to go to his friends house is because he's mean to him. (not really, they just have sharing problems sometimes). Since talking to him the other day, he tells me that the reason he didn't want to go to school and why he doesn't want to go to his friends house is because he would miss me. So between the two of these, is this what is going on? Could he be stressing about going to Kindergarden? I can't think of anything else it could be. There are no changes going on around here.
Has anyone else heard of this and can ya give me any advice on how to help him with this transition?