Pre School

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Registered: 01-06-2009
Pre School
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Tue, 01-06-2009 - 11:08am

I have a question my 4 1/2 year old started preschool this fall.


She had done ok - not great - said she doesn't like school.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: black_irish
Tue, 01-06-2009 - 1:42pm
Have you talked to her teachers to see what parts of the instructions she is not following? In order to help her start to do better they need to give you more of an idea of what she is doing wrong. For example, my gf's 4 yo is in a academic preschool and they get in lines to go wash hands before lunch. When they are inline they are not allowed to talk. Yes this school expects 20 4 yo to waiting patiently and quietly for their turn to wash their hands. Her son kept getting in trouble for not listening and following the rules. She couldn't figure out how to help him because as far as she could tell he was doing the school work they required. She went in to talk to the teacher because nothing she was doing at home was helping to improve his conduct reports. That was when she found out his only area of trouble was not talking while he was waiting in line. He was getting along fine with the other kids. He was transitioning between work centers well. He was following directions well, the only thing was talking in line. So she talked to him about it and figured out things he could do to make the time pass while he was waiting. He doesn't talk in line any more.

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Registered: 01-06-2009
In reply to: black_irish
Tue, 01-06-2009 - 4:20pm

I have an app with her teacher tomorrow.


I hope that at least lets me know what she is doing "wrong"


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In reply to: black_irish
Tue, 01-06-2009 - 4:39pm

Let us know what the teacher tells you. I'm hoping it is something simple like it was with my friend. Something that we can help you come up with ideas to address.

The other thing is that they may need to break down her day and their reporting of how she did that day into segments. Because if she has one instance of not listening but does well the rest of the day then you and they need to recognize that and let her know that over all she is doing great. It is just one area or time that she is having trouble.

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In reply to: black_irish
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 2:49pm
hello!! well, first i would talk to her teacher. what exactly is she getting sad faces for? what do the teachers expect of her? then i would set up a rewards chart/system for your dd. every day she gets a smily face-she gets a sticker on the chart-she gets to pick out the sticker and put it on her chart. at the end of the week, if she has 3 or more stickers, she gets a goodie. maybe a dollar store toy...lunch at mcdonalds, going to a mall with a plascape, etc. she works towards that goal all week. but if she doesnt achieve it, then she doesnt get it. simple. at the end of the month, if she has so many stickers, she gets a bigger goodie. my mom did this for me in first grade. i hated school-i would get myself so worked up-id get sick. so my mom did the chart thing-every day the teacher would send home a note with a smile or a frown on it. if i got a smile, id get a star on the chart. at the end of the week-as long as i had 4 or more stars, id get a prize. at the end of the month, i got a book i really wanted. at the end of te second month-where i think i only missed 2 days-i got a barbie doll. it only had to go on for 2 months. by december, i was good. plus the chart is a visual aid so she can see where she is-and what shes working towards. good luck!!!
JOANNE
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In reply to: black_irish
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 8:11pm
How did the meeting with the teacher go?

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Registered: 01-06-2009
In reply to: black_irish
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 4:25pm

Her teacher did not seem all that concerned about it!!


Liz told me last night that she misses me so much that -that is the reason she doesn't listen.

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In reply to: black_irish
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 10:40am

It does sound like it is emotional. How was her day yesterday?

It has to be hard paying attention when you are feeling sad about missing someone or worried about someone being mean to you.

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In reply to: black_irish
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 3:09pm

No school yesterday or today - because of weather


-1 yesterday


-3 today with a wind chill of -18

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In reply to: black_irish
Tue, 02-03-2009 - 3:58pm

Still not doing well if anything it has gotten worst.


I'm just not sure what I need to be doing.

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In reply to: black_irish
Tue, 02-03-2009 - 4:51pm

I'm sorry it has gotten worse. I was really hoping it would improve because you said she likes getting medals.

Have you been able to go in and observe her in class to see if there is something else going on besides her missing you?