Ready or Not

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Ready or Not
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Sun, 07-22-2007 - 6:27pm
I am getting ready to pull my hair out. I am trying to decide if I should send my daughter to preschool or kindergarten. She is 4 and going to be 5 in October. I already enrolled her in a preschool program but people in my family say she is too smart and should go to kindergarten. I know she is smart and she is old enough but I am afraid that she is not socialy ready. I need to make up my mind because her tuition for preschool is due August 1st. I really need some advice.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: mom_chantel
Sun, 07-22-2007 - 8:17pm

I would send her to preschool

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Registered: 07-14-2007
In reply to: mom_chantel
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 9:27am
My daughter still has temper tantrums. Even though she is almost 5 I don't really think she is ready. My husband thinks she should go to kindergarten because most of the kids are her age and he is afraid she will fall behind. Also a family friend who is a preschool teacher thinks she should go to kindergarten. And besides the tantrums she still wants some one to go in the bathroom with her when her belly hurts. I have to make up my mind by Monday.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: mom_chantel
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 11:29am

Hugs,


I know it's a hard decision. I had a lot of pressure to send Isabel to school too. Even from my DH. He thought we should go ahead and send her to Kindergarten.


If I were in your position again, I would wait another year. And she will not fall behind. If anything, she will be ahead. Isabel has always been ahead and was reading books

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Registered: 07-14-2007
In reply to: mom_chantel
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 3:08pm
I just want to make sure I make the right decision. I just want Katelyn to be happy. My other 2 children are spring babies so I am not that worried about when to start school. I guess it's also harder since she is my first child going to school.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: mom_chantel
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 5:48pm

You can always skip her a grade later if you need to. There is no harm in holding her back. You could even put her in Kindergarten half-way through the year if you wanted to and felt like she had matured enough to handle it.


I know what you mean. It's always hard to know what to do, especially with your first child. Eva was born in April so we won't have that issue with her either.

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Registered: 10-18-2006
In reply to: mom_chantel
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 8:16pm
I had this same dilemma last year. DD's birthday is in November. She is incredibly smart and had all the skills she needed for Kindergarten. I decided to keep her in preschool so that she would catch up in maturity. My bigger reason, some have called silly. If my child is older, and possibly more mature she is more likely to take on leadership roles through out her school years. Leadership roles look good on college applications and scholorship forms. Like I said, silly and way too future oriented, but it's why I kept her out. She'll be starting Kindergarten this fall and that poor teacher will have her hands full.
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Registered: 07-14-2007
In reply to: mom_chantel
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 11:04pm
I think what you say makes sense. If she starts next year she will be more mature and more focused as the years go on. The board of ed says knowledge wise she is at the same level as the kids leaving their pre-k program; she knows numbers and letters she is a wiz on the computer and loves to learn new things. My problem is if she gets stuck on something she gets very frustrated. I just want to make her happy.