Thanks to those of you who encouraged me

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Thanks to those of you who encouraged me
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Tue, 06-17-2003 - 8:12am
to make DH's business trip to LA a grownups-only trip! It was REALLY hard to leave - the night before we left, when I tucked DS in, he was holding a little stuffed Curious George that he's fond of and making it make little whimpering noises - I asked him what was wrong and he said "George is going to miss you. He's crying, but I'm not, my eyes are just watering a bit." (I don't know where boys pick up this "don't cry" stuff, it hasn't been from DH or me.) So I told him, "It's OK for you to be sad! I know I am!" and that did it, like a dam burst. (Oh no!) He was fine with the idea of Daddy going, he's done it before and DS figures he has a good reason, but I got lots of "But why do YOU have to go, Mommy?" I told him I hadn't had a trip with Daddy since before he was born, and that it wouldn't be a fun trip for him anyhow (and it sure wouldn't have been), and he says, "I don't mind if it isn't fun. We could always take a game or cards to play. I just want to be with you. . . ." (Oooof!) Don't think I wasn't bawling the minute I got him off to sleep! But honestly, he's the world's most secure kid, I think. He was great for Grandma & Grandpa (Grandma cried when she had to go back home!) and not mopey for a minute, his teachers say he didn't miss a beat and that's rare still for kids this age when parents are out of town. But it's no wonder he had a good time - Grandma and Grandpa took him camping, which he loves, he got to go to their house and in their pool too, they watched "Star Wars" (the old one) for the first time plus we talked about four times a day. The only day it was really hard for me was the one I had mostly on my own - I found myself feeling tense all day and then realized it was that I felt like I was obligated to have a good time doing stuff I couldn't do with DS in order to justify my being gone from him that day - got a good laugh out of my silliness, found DS a Star Wars light saber as a present, and then did better. It was really nice to have some grownup time, I'll admit - we're so used to doing everything with DS that sometimes I wonder if we'd have any fun together on our own, and we definitely did. (Wink wink!) We were just dying during our WB Studios tour, though, because they had a "museum" of tons of fabulous props from Harry Potter that DS would have loved to see! (They don't allow kids under 10 or 8 or something on the tour so he couldn't have seen it anyhow.) Neither of us are "stargazer" types but it was kind of fun to spot people regardless - saw Trista Rehn (sp?) from "The Bachelorette" taping a show, saw Ed Asner and Randy Quaid filming a made-for-TV movie, and the day I was on my own I ran into Jay Leno taping those people-on-the-street kind of questions. (I didn't try to speak to him.) And I finally got to see the La Brea Tar Pits, which I've wanted to see since I did a report on the state of California in 2nd grade, and that was great fun. (Who knew camels originated in N. America!) DS didn't have a minute of clinginess once I got back, either - we had a school field trip to a playground yesterday, and he was off with his buddies (he did save me a seat for the picnic lunch), then successfully hit up one of their moms for a playdate yesterday afternoon - I'd have liked to have spent the whole day with him, but I'm more glad that he's not acting off kilter. (We're together all day today.) So thanks for encouraging me! We're not going to be doing this all the time or something, but it's a relief to see that we can survive and even have a good time when we're not all joined at the hip.

It's awfully quiet around the boards, ladies! Everyone else on vacation too? I thought I'd have much more catching up to do than I did!

Donna

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Tue, 06-17-2003 - 12:35pm
I am glad you went and had a good time. It must have been heartbreaking hearing him ask to go with you (I would be in tears to). It sounds like he had a great time with grandma & grandpa though what a trooper he is.

Kris, Shelby(2/99), Taylor(3/02)

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Tue, 06-17-2003 - 2:36pm
I'm glad to hear that you had such a great time. It's good to get some couple time once in a while (of course, I wouldn't know much about that lately with two kids and dh working). It's always hard to leave our kids and even harder if they get upset about it. But more often then not, they are fine as soon as we are out the door.

Tracey

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Sat, 06-21-2003 - 9:38am
I'm so happy you had a good time! I have to admit, the bed time story had ME with a lump in my throat. It's true though, when we get time to ourselves, we're better parents to our kids. I'm Sooooooo glad you had a good time! I knew he'd be just fine....come one, he's got a great momma! How could I doubt?! *smile*

Janet =)

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