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|Wed, 06-23-2010 - 4:51pm|
Hi Ladies ~~
You might remember me from a couple of months back when I wrote about what a terrible time my son was having in school, in kindergarten no less.
Well, the school year has now come to an official close (tomorrow is actually the "real" last day) although for my son it ended nearly two weeks ago at the end of a really horrible week. Outbursts, pushing, throwing things... they called me at work and we pulled him out nearly two weeks early because truthfully I had had enough of the negativity that we were recieving from his teacher not to mention I was afraid that he might hurt someone without meaning to considering the way his behavior was escalating. These last two weeks with him at home, while not being perfect (the boy is 5 after all) haven't been the tornado that we were experiencing while he was at school. I literally would breathe a sigh of relief if we made it to 3:15 without a phone call from the school. The day before we pulled him out my husband had to go get him early and spoke to the administrator who, when my husband said maybe we should just not send him the rest of the year, said "that's up to you". The very next day, when we returned her response to my saying, "That's it. We're done" was, "That's probably a good idea". She's a very nice, helpful lady but with that I could see that Daniel had worn even her down.
Now I'd like to tell you how his teacher responded. Nothing. No note, no phone call, nothing positive at all. Daniel wanted to send her a note that my marigolds from Mother's day were finally starting to bloom and in return she sent all of his things from the classroom back with my older boy today shoved (SHOVED.. that's the way he received them before he left for the day) into a Wal-Mart bag. Inside was not only a present for my husband for Father's Day (she couldn't have sent that home last weekend?)but his report card all nice and wrinkled with her comment on the bottom stating that "Daniel should have a less stressful and more confident year next year... when it is figured out what his needs are and what triggers his behavior... I wish him much success in the future".
Needless to say I was extremely upset and locked myself in my room for about 20 minutes away from boys so that I could cry for all that we did wrong this year and so that I could finally put a name to this sick feeling that I have had for the last two weeks whenever I think of her. It's hate. I hate this woman, truly and with all my heart. There were times when I was younger when stuff would happen and I would think that I hated someone but it was never like this. Not ever. It's not a good feeling, I don't like it but it's there and I can't make it go away. I would like to hope that in her early teaching years she was better at it than she is now, but somehow I don't believe it. You can't become that cold, it has to already be in you somewhere.
Repeating kindergarten is not going to kill my son and I know Daniel is responsible for his own behavior, but her reaction, or her non- action is where I have a problem with her. Next year will be better... we've already got things set up for next year for him with the school, we have an appt with our dr on Monday and I've begun to implement some things at home that, while not necessarily something that would work in a school environment, work short-term at home.
Daniel is not a perfect child by any stretch of the imagination, but he's my boy and you don't mess with my kids. None of them. Next year will be better for all of us because she's no longer apart of our education.
Thanks for listening...