Violent, screaming temper tantrums

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Violent, screaming temper tantrums
Tue, 05-08-2007 - 8:57am

I should be a pro at this by now seeing as I have two older children, ages 7 and 9 but they didn't have this problem the way the youngest does.

My formerly cute and cuddley 4 yr old son has now taken to having violent, screaming, kicking, slapping, throw himself on the floor temper tantrums. He even tried to pick up a shelf and throw it in a fit of rage. It's amazing how much power such a little guy can posess.

I'm at a loss for how to deal with this, especially when he takes out his temper by beating on his older siblings.

Any tips or advise would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance


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Registered: 10-04-2004
Wed, 05-09-2007 - 8:01am
What is setting him off? I know that on Supper Nanny they had to teach one child to breathing techniques to get him to calm down. I thought it would never work but it did for this child. A basic breath in threw his nose & out his mouth. The Mom would have to hold the little boy and instruct him to do it. If I remember right they practiced it when the child was calm. You also might check with your pediatrician if things are way out of control. Sorry I do not have much personal experience but just thought I would share what I had seen on that show. HTH


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 8:46am

I know with my second child, if she doesn't get enough sleep, she can be a terror herself. Is he sleeping well? Or maybe he has allergies. Iknow that sound slike it's irrelevant but it can matter. If his ears are blocked or his balance is off (allergies can cause a range of annoying things) it may be making him more irritable.

When it happens, I'd say the most important thing is to get him somewhere he

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Registered: 03-29-2006
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 9:51am
Oh my gosh.