Walking dd to classroom?

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Registered: 08-26-2008
Walking dd to classroom?
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Tue, 08-26-2008 - 9:45am

My 5 yr old dd just started kindergarten last Wednesday. I walk her to her classroom, then stand outside while she stands in line waiting for her teacher to go through her backpack with her. If I don't she's running after me telling me she wants me to stay.


When I stay and wait she calms down (there are a few tears once we get to the classroom) goes through her backpack with her teacher and then once she's put her things away and sits down she gives me once last look and is calm and happy.


Her teacher however seems rather glassy if she sees me standing there. I'll hear "Oh there's Mom" or something like it. I don't see a problem with walking her to class, and letting her calm down while I stand there. Otherwise she's in tears and doesn't want me to leave.


Someone told me I wasn't doing her any good by walking her to class. Is this true? Should I walk her there as long as she needs me to?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 2:18pm

At my dd's school K kids are walked to class and everyone stays with them until the teacher opens the door. There is no supervsion out there in the morning. We do not going into the room with them not even to help them put their stuff away and get seated on the carpet for opening circle. They do that all on their own. On the days you work in the class, you don't walk in with them. You come in about 15 minutes later to start.

What do the rest of the parents do? If I was the only one going into the class room to help my kid get settled, I'd stop doing that. I wouldn't stop walking her to her class and waiting with her, but would stop going into the classroom with her. I still walk my 4th grader to school, I don't wait with him while he's in line but I do make sure he's headed that way before I take Lindsay to the kindergarten classes. Then I pick him up from his classroom after school. It's possible that he might get to start walking home on his own later in the year.

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Registered: 08-26-2008
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 2:38pm

Most of the kids are bus riders, so they're there on their own really. I don't stand in the classroom, there's not enough room and it just wouldn't be the thing to do :) I just stand against the wall right across from the door so she can see me until she's done with her teacher (they go through their backpacks together every morning)and puts her stuff in her cubby. It seems to keep her calm and then she's off and sitting down, and I leave.


It just seems like her teacher has a problem with my being there. I've no intention of stopping but figured I'd ask. :P The teacher seems to think it's a "bad" thing. She tried telling me that it makes it worse if the parent walks them down. It makes it worse for my dd if I don't.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 2:49pm

We have a few kindergarten kids who ride the bus, they get walked down to their class by the bus driver and wait with the teacher until its time to open the door. They are supervised from the moment they get on the bus until they get back off at home at the end of the day. Everyone else either drives or walks their children to school. We are responsible for them on campus until school starts at 8:15am. Older kids often are expected to wait in line by themselves but there are usually a handful of parents in each grade who are around keeping an eye on things. Even the kids who go to extended care in the mornings before school starts get walked down to their classrooms. The staff wait with the kinder kids.

I wouldn't change what you are doing. She will adjust soon enough and will stop looking out the door to see if you are there till she gets settled. The teacher needs to relax and let it go if you are not coming into the room or trying to get her attention before you leave.