When was the last time...

Community Leader
Registered: 04-08-2008
When was the last time...
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Tue, 11-05-2013 - 8:23am

... you went out on a 'date' with your partner?

Many married couples have already discovered the benefits of scheduling a “date night” – carving out a few hours in the schedule without the kids -- and now the concept is getting at least one government’s official endorsement.

Norway’s new minister for Children, Equality and Social Inclusion recently urged that country’s parents to make time for romance as a way to head off divorce.

"It is important to find small pockets of time where parents can be lovers," Solveig Horne said last week, according toThe Guardian.

"In a busy life of work and family, the week can feel too short to attend to your relationship with your partner, so each couple needs to decide what sort of a date night they should have, whether it's a night at the movies or a walk together without the kids for a couple of hours.”

http://www.today.com/moms/be-lovers-norway-politician-urges-parents-schedule-date-nights-8C11518992

Do you feel like you get enough alone time with your partner?  Do you schedule regular date nights?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2003
Thu, 11-07-2013 - 12:37pm

we are going Saturday. Its a joint surprise 40th for him and a friends wife who just turned 40. Prior to that it was end of auguist when we went to fantasy football draft party. We tried to do a month adult only thing with a group of friends then someone's turn to host they made it a kids things so some people didn't show because again the whole point was we all decided we needed KID free time and that was the demise of that.

We don't get enough just me and him and no other couples but between two kids and activies never time.

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Community Leader
Registered: 04-08-2008
Mon, 11-11-2013 - 7:53am
How was your time out this weekend? A surprise party sounds like fun! I can totally understand the lack of time. I've had to make a real point of making it a priority (and even then, I tend to want to talk myself out of it as there is just so much to do all the time). I keep thinking that as the kids get older, this will get easier. I guess we'll find out!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2003
Mon, 11-11-2013 - 8:26am

ugh so after his sister asked if we could also include her hubby who turned 40 over the summer and I ran out and got 40th gag stuff for 3 (not easy because apparently LOTS of people turning 40 this year and not cheap) she bailed 15 min before we were supposed to be there "i'm tired". I was livid and ended up letting cat out of bag, she does this ALL the time so I should have known better. We still had fun. One other couple bailed too but turns out last time we went to this place was end of summer so just baseball going on but Saturday night there was a hockey game, college football, and a UFC fight so a 45min wait for a table and if we had a larger party God knows.

We are lucky we have in laws who will not only baby sit but take over night and kids who will stay overnight and as much as I want just us time its fun to out with others too. YOu don't feel as alone when you realize we all have the same woes. Think if we had to hire sitters it would definately be more of a challenge. For the longest time we were only using sitters to do our food shopping. Great to do it without them moaning and groaning but still and MIL would yell to stay out longer and grab some dinner but he never wanted to.We have done more group outings without kids this year then in past so think next year reslution is going to be to add some solo date nights...if we can agree on a movie or concert or something we have been together over 20 years we are both over going to something to please the other. He has seen enough chick flicks and I have had a enough of blood and guts ;0

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Community Leader
Registered: 04-08-2008
Mon, 11-18-2013 - 8:10am
I'm glad the party turned out okay, even if the cat got out of the bag! Sounds like it was quite a busy place!!

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 11-25-2013 - 2:28pm
Before our oldest left, we went out on a date night at least once a month, sometimes more often depending on her schedule, but she, and all our other babysitters, left for college and we don't have anyone else at the moment. We did go out one evening when my parents were here in October and we will likely make time to spend some time together while we are in michigan for the holidays and have 2 sets of grandparents to watch them for a bit.
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-08-2008
Mon, 11-25-2013 - 11:27pm
That's tough when you don't have someone to watch your kiddos. We finally found someone responsible, thankfully, but it took us YEARS to find someone we liked and trusted.