A worry wart 5 year old - HELP!

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Registered: 05-13-2003
A worry wart 5 year old - HELP!
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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 9:00pm
Hi, I'm new here.....hoping to see if this is happening to anyone else. My DS is 5 years old, finishing preschool and going to kindergarten in the fall. He is a typically developing child, nothing odd, on track with everything. My DH and I are getting worried that our son is making himself sick to his stomach worrying about "stuff". He's always anticipating something - once it happens, it's fine. I know it might seem trivial, but I'm starting to get worried, he's going to get an ulcer. We're not overbearing parents. Our DD (who's 7), wasn't like this. Thanks in advance. Kristen
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Wed, 05-14-2003 - 3:14pm
Are you or DH worriers? I am. And as someone on this board recently pointed out, it seemed to be rubbing off on my DD. She would get worried about small things, like if we move, how will the fish get there. She would tell me I drive to fast, etc. I began to notice the things that I tell her when I'm worried and how I handled it when she began to "worry".

Instead of just telling her that there's nothing to worry about, I try to comfort her and get her to talk about why she's worried. In the case of the fish, I tell her how great it is that she takes care of her pets so well and explained to her that fish can breathe under water (she was worried they couldn't breathe in a plastic bag).

I wonder too how much of a stage this may be. I have a friend who says her 5 year old also seems to worry a lot. But then again, so does my friend.

Good luck!

Kathy, Alexandra (6/19/97) and Christian (12/22/99)

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Wed, 05-14-2003 - 3:48pm
LOL, Kathy, that was abrasive ol' me! (And I had been worried that you would be annoyed by that post but you took it like the champ you are.)

As usual, I agree with Kathy's approach. I also think that some kids are just more prone to this as a part of their personality, and that it may come out more at certain stages. Perhaps there is something specific that may be triggering it (school ending?) but maybe not. I guess the only thing I'd add is that once he's gotten through something he was worried about, to tell him how very capable he is, and that you hope he'll remember that the next time he's worried about something.

Good luck!

Donna

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 6:04pm
Hi, actually that's what is baffling us because we aren't worriers. I've been trying not to say "Just don't worry" and explain to him, but it just seems to have gotten worse in the last year. Thanks for your advise. Kristen
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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 6:06pm
Donna, I like what you said and will try this - "I guess the only thing I'd add is that once he's gotten through something he was worried about, to tell him how very capable he is". Thanks for your help. Kristen
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 11:11am
Mommy, it is only ntural for him to be concerned about llife in the future. Kindergarten gets such hype, and that is not always interpreted as we would like it to be for our little ones. KWIM?

This is what you can do to help him out. ALWAYS explain what will happen at the start of the day. ALWAYS give advanced notice before you do something with him. In all honesty, I like to know what my day entails before I actually attempt it, too. Especially when I'm doing something new. So give him advanced notice and he should be fine. Let us know how it goes. I am interested to see how he adjusts to the changes. HUGS!

Janet =)

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