WWYD?

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WWYD?
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Thu, 06-19-2003 - 2:03pm
My 5.5 y/o DS came home from summer school today and showed me a drawing he made. It was him, naked! Yikes! I asked him if his teacher's saw it and he said no, so I was relieved about that, but I had a talk with him about what he shouldn't draw at school. I explained that while it was a nice drawing (very anatomically correct), those were still his private parts and they shouldn't be drawn or shown at school.

I hope I handled it OK...I know he felt bad because he wanted me to be happy about his drawing, but I had to make it clear to him that naked pictures don't belong at school.

What would you have done?

Rebecca
Loving wife to David (3-2

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In reply to: menofallsmom
Thu, 06-19-2003 - 2:18pm
I think you reacted as a lot of people would have but I don't think it's right to do anything, even inadvertently, that might have the effect of making your son ashamed of his body. After all, what he did was art, and if grown-up painters can paint nude self-portraits with no taint of social disapproval, why subject a child to censorship? There was nothing lewd or inappropriate or indecent going on here. I do not mean to criticise, I really don't, so please do not take it as such. Just my 2c.
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In reply to: menofallsmom
Thu, 06-19-2003 - 2:41pm
Well, personally, I would have handled it like this. Alexandra is a great artist, so as always, I would have told her what a wonderful drawing it is, how it was so accurate, the pretty colors, etc. Then I would have told her that just like it's not appropriate for people to be naked outside of their homes, it would be better for her not to draw naked pictures of herself (or other people) outside the house. I wouldn't tell her it was wrong or tell her anything that might make her ashamed of her body, but let her know that it would be better if she wanted to draw things like that to do it at home.

I think there's a place for everything and although I don't really see anything wrong with her doing it (heck, they'll be discussing sex ed in another few years), others may get a wrong reaction. You just never know anymore what a teacher might think - ie., abuse??

Take care,

Kathy, Alexandra (6/19/97) and Christian (12/22/99)

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In reply to: menofallsmom
Thu, 06-19-2003 - 3:12pm
I would have laughed my head off, and I would have praised my son for a fantastci drawing. I have art works with nudity so he would know there is nothing wrong with nudity or drawing it. But I would have told him that sometimes teachers are not too happy with drawings with no clothes, just like they woul dnot be too happy if he were to run into the class with no clothes. And I would suggest he drew his favourite underpants on the picture instead. I just hate it that we have to reel in our kids because others may be upset, but I guess we have to.

my son has already had a whole lesosn from me about how everything inside his underpants is really special so he doesn't share it with anyone. It his his own sacred zone. He knows that in his own home he can run a streak if he wants but that outside he has to take care to keep his special area safe. He knows not what from, but I know he got the message when the doc asked him to srip once and the doc got this huge speech from my little man.

So since we have that covered I would have tied int he art work to that in some way saying we don't really want to draw our special area for the whole world to see because it is our own to value...

It is a hard one and I don;t envy you trying to find that balance there

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Cat

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In reply to: menofallsmom
Thu, 06-19-2003 - 3:21pm
I would probably have tried to down play it, b/c otherwise he may have liked the negative attention...I would tell him that it was a GREAT picture, however maybe it would be better if he drew some clothes on himself, otherwise everyone will see him naked..ewww and hope that works!

**SMILES**

Laura SAHM to Emily 9.4, Jordan 4.6 and Carys 7wks

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In reply to: menofallsmom
Sat, 06-21-2003 - 1:23am
Personally I probably would have reacted exactly as you did. I don't think there is anything wrong with letting your child know that there is a time and a place for everything, if anything it's our obligation. I would much rather deal with it that way, then end up with parent/teacher conferences and possible school discipline and Lord knows what else others would read into something like that. I think you handled it just fine IMO.

Stephanie

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In reply to: menofallsmom
Sat, 06-21-2003 - 11:22am
It sounds like you have a true artist in your family! What a great talent!! Our bodies are beautiful, every part of them, and it's great to see he is so very comfortable with his. One of the most important lessons to learn in life is tolerance of differences. There is nothing "wrong" with what your son did. I would explain to him that people are different and so are their preferences. "Some people may not like to see pictures of naked people, so please, when you want to draw them, draw them at home." There are many differences in opinions on appropriateness. That way you aren't teaching that anyone is wrong, but rather to be accepting of other people's feelings, particularly when they differ from your own.

Janet =)

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