You wont beleive this

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You wont beleive this
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Sun, 07-06-2003 - 3:19pm
Last week I started my job for our business, and I had found a 15yo to come to our house and baby sit. this was the ideal thing for us and dd. She came to our house 2 different times with her mom, and I spent time interrigating her LOL! She started july 1st. She was here in our home on july 1, 2, 3....becuase of the holiday. When the pay was discussed, the average cost for day care is $2.25 and hour (a little steep) but oh well. It was agreed that we would pay this girl $2.25/hr. She has it very easy here, all she has to do is give dd breakfast, lunch and pick up a little (which she didn't do).

Here is the big thing...we have a beautiful pool in the back yard, so yes she access to a pool all day, her and dd can swim, picknick out by the pool etc. Not hard work right? Well Thursday dh and I were coming back from the school (this is where our contract is and I work) and I figured out her hours for 3 days, 19.5 @ $2.25= 43.87 for doing pretty much nothing. Sounds good right?

DH and I came home abt 1:30 ON thursday. She was a little shocked but hey. She and her mother knew that my hours vary, i could come home at 12:00 somedays, it just depends on wht is going on at work.

To make a long story short HER MOTHER calls me and has enough BALLS to ask me when we were going to pay her daughter the other $37 that we owed her! She told me that she called her SIL who has done day care got 15 years and her SIL said to charge a daily rate of $20 a day regardless of how many hours her dd was baby sitting for and PAID HOLIDAYS!! I can see this for a LISCENED day care, becuase a day care provider does ALOT during the day, breakfast, snack, games, stories, crafts, walks to the park etc....

WE are talking abt a 15 yo who does no picking up and lounges by the pool all day and her mother EXPECTS $20 for her to come here!! When I baby sat I took what I was given, my parents NEVER called and told the family I was babysitting for to give me more money! Only if i was severly ripped off they would say something but NEVER would they call and expect me to be paid day care rate over an agreed rate!!

Am I being unreasonable or is her mother? I feel that $2.25 is plenty especially when she has access to a private pool all day.........and remeber this was the agreed rate when she started. I feel if she needs $20 a day then I will have her fill out a form for a 1099 at the end of the year so we can get a tax deduction. But we have friends who are having a very very difficult time with immigration and there for her dh cannot work and could use extra $$$$ and she would LOVE dd to come there and they will bring her and their 2 kids to our house to swim during the week?

What is your opinion?

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Sun, 07-06-2003 - 5:45pm
I think if the girl and her mom agreed to $2.25/hour than that is what you should pay her. She is not running a licensed daycare so you do not need to pay her for holidays and you do not need to pay her a flat rate per day if she agreed on the per hour pay. If the mom and daughter are not satisfied with this tell her that you will find another sitter and unless she comes back with an ECE degree she will only be paid the agreed upon amount. This may seem rude but they made the agreement and should stick to it.

Tracey

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Sun, 07-06-2003 - 7:00pm
If the 2.25 an hour was the agreed upon amount you need to remind the mother of this. If the girl no longer wishes to work for this amount then I say find a new sitter, one that sticks to what she agrees. I used to babysit for a friend and I got paid 20 dollars a week for watching her child 2 days a week, 5.5 hours a day.

I don't know if 2.25 an hour is reasonable or not in your area, but its what she agree on. If you want to stick with this sitter I would insist on having the proper forms filled out so you can get a tax break. I would insist then that other work be done as well. If she wants daycare rate, she should preform daycare duties.

Personally I would find a new sitter, but thats just me.

Leesa

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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 9:29am
I completely agree with you and the other posters! Although I don't find 2.25 to be steep, I do find it absolutely INSANE to pay her 20.00 a day and holidays like she is in the work force! She, technically, can't work in the workforce until she is 16, to the best of my knowledge, and even if she DID at her age, she certainly wouldn't get the pay her mother is thinking she deserves. In addition to that, part time child care goes by an hourly rate as well. I've been in the field of early childhood for about 20 years now. I don't know of any families that have paid a flat rate of 20 per day on a part ime basis. An agreement in an agreement. If she agreed to the 2.25, that is the deal. However, as you are finding out, she can be difficult and say that's not enough and quit. IMO, I wouls let her and her opinionated mother go. If this is around the first paycheck, just imagine life with a REAL concern?! UG!! Besides, if her mother is like this aout these issues, I wouldn't want to know how she, the teen, is with YOUR children. Things rub off, KWIM?

As for your friend....if the problems with immigration aren't anything that you can get in legal trouble for, (I say that because with immigration there are lots of issues that are investigated, and Id rther be safe than sorry...especially now) I say go ahead. I would do the same deal. If it helps out both families and you both trust eachother, why not? Just be cautious with the immigration issue.

I hope I helped you feel sane, LOL! That woman certainly isn't! LOL!!!!

Janet =)

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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 12:06pm
To Janet and everyone else.

I talked to her mother again lastnight, and I made a point that she is only 15 and hourly is how she should be paid not a daily rate of $20.00

I told her that it just would not work out and I was sorry. But her mom just could not understand it.

Some people just see $$$$$ for their kids and summer jobs, they assume that they need "day care rate" pay instead of the old traditional hourly.

SOme people just have lots of nerve. I am sane becuase dd went to our friends house, and trust me there are no problems with that.

SArah

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 9:41am
Call your friend! You do not need this aggrivation, and you are right, the wage was agreed upon, and I have NEVER heard of a teen-ager getting paid for not baby sitting on a holiday! That is just plain ridiculous!

Good luck!

Stephanie

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 7:10pm
GOOD FOR YOU! That woman is obsessive, obviously, and you don't need that in your life when you have to be away from your baby! =) I'm glad you are happy with your decision!

Janet =)

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