Your childs bedtime

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Registered: 03-25-2013
Your childs bedtime
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 12:13pm

Hi There

I hope none of you mind me joining your board, I havent posted in i village since my daughter Lucy (now 3) was a baby,. For personal reasons I am trying to do some research into what times most 3 or 4 year olds go to bed and would be extremely grateful for as many responses as possible. If everyone could post the age of their LO and what their average bedtime is I would be really happy.

Thankyou in advance

Emma x

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 03-25-2013 - 12:31pm

Welcome back.  I think it really depends on a few factors, do they get up in the morning for anything, preschool, daycare, etc., do they nap still, are they nigh owls or early risers by nature?

I have a 3 year old and almost 6 year old.  The 3 year old is a night owl, still will easily nap the full 2 - 2 1/2 hours they allow at daycare (3 - 3 1/2 on weekends if I let her) and has to get up at 5:50 every morning to leave with me for daycare.  Ideally she goes to bed between 7:30 and 8, but she gives me problems since she does tend to be  a night owl and if I allow it, will easily stay up til 9 or 9:30 each night.  She's also slow to wake up and needs a bit of time to meander in the mornings and can't be rushed.

My almost 6 year old on the other hand is not a night owl and does not nap at all as she's in kindergarten.  So by 7:30-8 she is a bear to live with and will be asleep within a few minutes of laying down.  She doesn't have to get up til 6:30 to get on the bus at 7:10, so ideally I have her in bed by 8:00.  But as long as she's in bed no later than 8:30 she's up easily in the mornings with no problems and is quite chipper.

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Tue, 03-26-2013 - 7:08am

My 4 year old has an 8:30 bed time and my oldest a 9, but they share a room and 4 year old hates going to bed without brother and big brother hates going to bed with little brother. Can't say I blame him little brother is a chatter box at bedtime.

My oldest has ADHD and issues winding down, so he was always a night owl but gets up just fine at 6:30. My 4 year old gets up around the same time, some mornings he is a bear others he is total opposite. We also don't get home until 6pm so by the time dinner, homework, baths etc are taken care of its well past 8.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 03-26-2013 - 9:41am
Heidi, that's funny because mine are mostly the same way, they share a room and because the youngest is a chatter box at bedtime, the older one hates going to bed at the same time, but staggering their bedtimes don't help, the older complains she has to go to bed before the youngest, but she falls right to sleep. Even if I put the youngest one down 30 minutes before, she's rarely asleep when the older ones goes to bed, so I ended up doing what i did last night, the younger one ends up going to sleep in our bed...
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Registered: 09-12-2003
Thu, 03-28-2013 - 7:02am

The staggard bed times doesn't really work either but now older one gets upset if he goes to bed same time as younger "but I am older" Then youngest makes an issue "I want to go to bed with L" which pretty much means he is so not asleep when older brother goes to bed so does nothing for his chattering. Then if one gets to sleep in our room the next night the other one wants to and it sets off another issue. Oh and doesn't help DH has zero concept of time. if I am feeling sick it could be 10 and both would be up.

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Mon, 04-01-2013 - 1:31pm

<<Oh and doesn't help DH has zero concept of time. if I am feeling sick it could be 10 and both would be up.>>

ROFL!! My DH is the SAME way! If I'm sick or if I'm out running an errand that goes past their bedtime, 90% of the time the kids will still be up even though he knows what their bedtime is!

Lisa 

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 04-05-2013 - 3:24pm

cmlisab wrote:
<p><em>&lt;&lt;<span style="font-size:13px">Oh and doesn't help DH has zero concept of time. if I am feeling sick it could be 10 and both would be up.&gt;&gt;</span></em></p><p><span>ROFL!! My DH is the SAME way! If I'm sick or if I'm out running an errand that goes past their bedtime, 90% of the time the kids will still be up even though he knows what their bedtime is!</span></p><p><span>Lisa </span></p>

Yep, mine too.  I can feed them, have them in their PJ's before I leave and they are still up when I get home, past their bedtime, munching on snacks watching TV.

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