How do you handle Backtalk??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
How do you handle Backtalk??
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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 7:32pm
I was wondering what you think the best approach is for backtalk. Occasionally, my almost 3 year old will get a bit fresh with me. For ex, if I say "after Barney is over we have to leave", she'll say "no" is a bossy way. Or if I say its time to clean up she'll say "you clean up" I usually just tell her that's not a polite way to talk to mommy and model the correct way she should respond. And she does ultimately ask politely or respond in an acceptable way. Is that enough or should a time out follow? Wondering what you guys d when your little ones speak to you that way. Thanks!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-27-2003 - 10:25pm
Just a question first. Is what your doing working? If it is, I wouldn't worry.

My ds is 2, and he does this a little. If he's just doing it to do it, he gets a time out. If he is doing it because he doesn't want to do something such as your dd not wanting to clean up, he gets to clean up on his own, where otherwise he would have had my help. In the case of your dd telling you "no" when you tell her it's time to leave after a certain tv program, the tv goes off and he goes in time out. It really just depends on the situation.

Jayme

 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 6:41am
I don't tolerate backtalk. Not to me or to anyone else. If one of mine told me no I would immediately get right down to eye level and say "I am your mother. You do NOT tell me no. I said we will be leaving and we WILL be going." If she said something else, the tv would go off and she wouldn't watch it again for quite a while.

If one of mine said "you clean up" again I would immediately say in a firm voice "you don't tell me what to do. I told you to clean up and I mean now. Either get started or lose all those toys for a week." Nipping it in the bud NOW is what you want to do. They are going to hit a phase around 5 where it gets really bad and then again around 9. Knowing that you won't tolerate it now will help. Mine are 7 and almost 11 so I have both going through the mouthy phase. They try it, I immediately stop it and they know not to push it with me.

Sherri