I don't know what to do.

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Registered: 11-05-2008
I don't know what to do.
Mon, 11-04-2013 - 9:26pm

I don't know how much more I can take. My son (who will be 4 in January) in the last few days, weeks, I really am not sure how long, has taken this daddy preference thing to a whole new level. I am ok that they are close and actually I am so happy that they have found each other in such a strong way. My problem is that not only is daddy tops, but every one ranks above me.

He is outright mean to me. He is constantly calling me names, hitting or kicking me, pushes me away if I try to hug or kiss him, and telling me I am a bad person or just bad. He says I do bad things to him and I am always the bad guy in his make believe. For a bit I thought I could just go along mostly ignoring it and finding special things for us to do together and such but it has just gotten worse. I want to cry most nights. Heck if I was prone to it I think I would be full blown alcoholic at this point. I still am hoping this is a stage and he will get over it. It is especially probably bad because we just went through buying a house and are now in the fixing it up and moving there process. 

The other day DH had gone to run and errand and DS woke from a nap and went into a full on tasmanian devil style temper tantrum kicking and hitting me, not just when I was near him but he would chase me down to try to hit me more. When I got that stopped he started throwing everything he could find. This went on for 10-15 minutes. He said it was because he wanted daddy. Finally when he wound down, i got him playing with pay-doh and he was ok till DH got home. He will play and do things with me if I am the only one there but he has to be sure that status is not going to change before he settles down to do things with me.

It is all just so hurtful and I don't know how much longer I can hold it together. I feel like I am constantly on hte verge of losing it in some ways when I am with him. I really don't know what to do.