Moving stress

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Registered: 11-05-2008
Moving stress
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Mon, 12-10-2012 - 10:10pm

So starting at the beginning of Novemeber I started a new job that for that month until DH could transfer I was traveling back and forth between the two locations and would be away for days at a time. DS (almost 3 years) did pretty well with that when he was just with DH. So 1st weekend of December we made the mostly full move to our new location and DH started at his new location today.

DS has his room set up and his playroom. I am working odd hours including some overnights which is new for DS.

Since we have gotten to the new house (which is larger and has multiple levels instead of one), DS has been having trouble with bedtime. He is not napping either unless we are in the car. but that is not new. He will get up repeatedly and as ask us to lay with him for "just one more minute". 

Does anyone have any advice where the line is between reasonable catering to expected stress and insecurity vs. avoiding letting him play us and get into bad habits? I don't want to be hard nosed about it when he probably has some valid concerns and needs the reassurance. But I can;t get him in the habit of having one of us in bed with him until either he falls asleep or for the night!

Thanks!

---Kristy 

Siggie
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Registered: 11-05-2008
Fri, 05-24-2013 - 9:26pm

Sigh ... just found this again after I fell off the face of the planet ... sorry.

Update .... we are still in bed with him until he falls asleep. And again if he wakes through the night. Overnight sometimes it is our bed and sometimes his depending on his mood. 

:(

Siggie
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Registered: 11-05-2008
Sun, 12-23-2012 - 9:39pm

The biggest thing for us we have been doing is laying with him until he goes to sleep. Currently it is saving our sanity but I am wondering how long I can keep this up without sentencing myself to doing this forever!

I wish there was going to be a point where I see a solid routine starting but I don't know that with our work schedules it is going to be solid any time in the near future.

Just still not sure how far to take this. 

Siggie
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Registered: 08-02-2001
Mon, 12-17-2012 - 2:47pm

GREAT NEWS about the Nanny !!!  and I think as he becomes more familiar, things will ease into place... just rmember the big picture !

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Mon, 12-17-2012 - 11:51am

Actually I work more this holiday week. I work emergency and I am currently the new kid with no seniority, so....

It is also the hours I work that makes it difficult. Sometimes I have to leave for work before he gets up in the morning. I tell him what to expect which definitely helps but then I am totally sleep deprived when he wants me in his bed or he is in our bed.... 

Anyway, he seems to be doing pretty well but this inconsistent sleep location is getting to me. As for when he moved into his big boy bed we actually did not have issues for about a month then he decided he could get up and he liked that. really then it was only a few days of stress for us because we could be consistent since we knew it was more a novelty than any sort of stress with the new situation. This seems harder because of the stress that i know is involved.

She has only been here one day but he loves his new nanny! 

Siggie
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Registered: 08-02-2001
Sun, 12-16-2012 - 2:32pm

I agree and with the holidays around the corner it might just be too much.   Will you have time off during the holidays?  during that time I would figure out what you want to happen...the gradually move towards that goal.

Good luck and YEAH to be finally settled !

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Tue, 12-11-2012 - 3:24pm

Honestly, being in a new house and a new environment, I personally would indulge him for a little while to give him that peace of mind and reassurance that its just a new place, but mommy and daddy aren't going anywhere.  I know you had trouble before with him transitioning to a bed correctly?  But a move like this is pretty stressful on a little one, I would do it for a little while and see how it goes.  But maybe someone else has some BTDT experience.

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