Screaming Toddler at naptime/bedtime

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Screaming Toddler at naptime/bedtime
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 11:12am
Hi My 14 1/2 mth old DD has started screaming and pounding on the door of her room whenever I put her down for a nap or sometimes even bedtime.She will scream for five minutes or more. I try not to give in but sometime its hard.She used to take her naps etc with no problem but now for some reason shes doing this.I feed her etc before naps/bed.Should i move the time she goes to bed or just let her scream it out.Thank you very much for any advice you all might have.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 4:08pm
I know it sounds cruel, but I'd let her cry it out. I do this with my 2yo when he does this, which isn't often. Before I switched him to a toddler bed, I sleep trained him at about a year. I let him cry it out for 10 minutes at a time. At 10 minute intervals, I'd go in, sing a lullabye, rub his back. DO NOT PICK THE CHILD UP!!!! This ruins everything. If she is already in a toddler bed, going in to comfort her may just make it worse. I'd just let her cry, unless of course the crying got out of control. She'll get over it.

Jayme mom to Johnathan (2.2) and Tadpole (EDD 10/17)



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 6:49pm
I'm not sure if the situation would be the same for your daughter, but i used to close emily's door when she took a nap..she did fine for a while, then when she was about 18mos old, she decided she did not like the door closed. i told her that if she would lie down and nap i would keep the door open and it worked like a charm....maybe your dd just doesn't want the door closed could always try it and see...good luck...


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 03-27-2003 - 5:09am
I would put up a baby gate rather than closing the door. It sounds like she has grown afraid of being shut in her room alone. Kids go through stages where things that have never bothered them before suddenly frighten them. I'd put up the gate and that way she is still confined to her room, but she can see and hear too. If she still cries, then yes, I would let her cry it out.


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-27-2003 - 11:15pm
hello i have a 21/2yr old and he's had sleep issues from the start

at nine months i finally realized i had been trying to get him to sleep for 2hours in my arms and he was still screaming

i decided to put him in the crib and let him scream it out well 45min i cried in the living room to hear it but after a week or two he stopped crying so much and then eventually he would just go to sleep peacefully

then at 17months he crawled out of his crib so now i lay with him until he goes to sleep usually an hour or so

my personal advice would be let her cry it out they say children need to have a little cry or scream at the end of the day so it might even makeher sleep better

but if it is too hard to hear maybe you could try laying down with her see if it works well for the two of you

hope this helps maybe a little