advice please

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advice please
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Thu, 08-27-2009 - 9:43am
DD is 28 month when she tells me potty after she already went, so I thought its time to potty train. We started on Monday we are no where. She is happy to sit in her wet underwear even poopie underwear and never says a word. I take her every hour and sometimes she refuese to even sit on the potty. DH says just give up its too hard. MIL says I waited too long she will never learn. One friend hired a coach, no way DH will let me do that. Another friend enrolled her son in daycare to have them teach him and when he learns she is taking him out she is a sahm.
I just don't know what to do?
We had the talk pick out the potty and underwear. I did try those cool when wet pull ups and she told me potty after she was wet.
I am so upset and confused. When DH is home he just puts DD in a diaper she doesn't want a diaper she starts to cry he does it anyway he doesn't want to be bothered.
I also have an 11 month old . I am thinking of bring the potty into the playroom(where spend most of the day).
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In reply to: flbon2
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 10:54am

Do you have her clean up her messes? I know that teaching them to clean up after themselves makes an "accident" more of a hassle for them.

I would be hesitant investing in pull-ups. Even the "cool ones" it is hard for kids to get the peeing sensation or feel uncomfortable in them. When out, if we are in the early stages I will occasionally use a pull-up, but I put a scrap of fabric in it to make them more uncomfortable.

Oh, and remember, your daughter will not enter college without bladder control. She'll get it eventually.

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Registered: 02-03-2009
In reply to: flbon2
Fri, 09-04-2009 - 11:03am
Have patience. My daughter is 3 and still not potty trained and I feel like we've been working on it forever. However, I blame myself because I got really lazy about it (was pregnant and exhausted, then had newborn and was exhausted). Well DS is 8 months now and I am still exhausted but realized that DD is never going to be potty trained if I keep on doing what I am doing. So I got rid of the pull-ups (except at nap and nighttime) because if she is wearing a pull-up she will not go in the potty. If she is naked she goes in the potty but if she has a pull-up she will not and now transitioning to underwear she will not. I wish I had never used the pull-ups because I think she actually would have gotten it faster. There is padded underwear you can buy at Target (or Walmart I'm sure) they are called training pants and are in the bibs and onesie aisle. They also have ones that are plastic covered which might help at her stage. Don't give up - she's just learning, and whenever you are just learning something it takes awhile. I also use the m and m's as rewards. One when she goes pee and two when she goes poop. That has worked pretty well. Good luck!
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Registered: 05-18-2006
In reply to: flbon2
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 10:12am

Hi there!

 
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Registered: 10-03-2006
In reply to: flbon2
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 8:01pm
hi thanks, well somedays she will use the potty all day with a few accidents and sometimes she refuses totally. No really means no she will sit in totally wet underwear and not say a word. These are days she totally refuses to even use the potty. I talk to Dr he said when she is ready she will just do it.
But she is refusing to eat, wash, dress , undress, play you name it everything is an argument.
I am hoping its just a phase.
Thanks for asking
Trixie
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Registered: 05-18-2006
In reply to: flbon2
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 9:00am

I'm sure it's just a phase.

 
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In reply to: flbon2
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 2:08pm
i try to get the same results I want using a different route. Instead of saying its bed time I tell DD its time to go read books before bed. Then there is no screaming or crying and we follow the same routine.
DH won't bend at all and the night ends with screaming and crying.
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In reply to: flbon2
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 8:31am

I love the idea of using different words.