Another poopy problem

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Another poopy problem
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Tue, 10-06-2009 - 3:27am

My 3 year old is practically potty trained. She stays dry all day and all night. I can count her pee accidents for the last month on one hand. Life is good...almost.

Her problem is she won't poop in the potty. She actually was in panties exclusively for about 3 weeks with no problems and then she started pooping in them. If I ask her about it, she tells me she's scared (okay I get that) and that she doesn't want to make me sad.

After about a week of her pooping in her panties, I made the difficult decision of putting her back in pull ups. Although she knows when she's going (I have witnessed her recognizing the signs) to go, she will go off and hide. If she'd ask for the pull up or diaper that would be easier.

I try to sit her on the potty when I can tell she has to go, but that is fruitless. She actually holds the poop in and is making herself constipated. It is really frustrating because when she does go it is hard and very large. I feel for her because I know it isn't pleasant.

So I'm wondering if anyone has any advice. I am at my wit's end and don't know what to do. I have tried everything that I know to do and it's not working. TIA for any help!

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Registered: 08-17-2009
Tue, 10-06-2009 - 6:31am
my little sister was doing the same thing accept she had blood in her poop it was so hard. when we took her into the dr they gave her a stool softener she had to take twice a day. she was scared to go but when she realized it didnt hurt and that it was easier she started going in the potty. did your dd tell you exactly what she is afraid of or why she does not want to poop in the potty?
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Registered: 01-22-2006
Tue, 10-06-2009 - 2:50pm
No, she doesn't say anything except that she is scared. I have to take her for her 3 year well check soon, so I'll ask about a stool softener. I hope that will help her out.

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Registered: 05-18-2006
Wed, 10-07-2009 - 9:03am

Hi there!


This is a very common situation for potty training children, who may quickly learn to pee in the potty, but are hesitant to poop there. Instead of thinking about it as a problem though, it is better to consider it to be a normal part of potty training. Which means that you just aren't done yet unforunately!

If she has bowel movements that are sometimes big, hard and painful to pass, then she may just be afraid to use the potty to have her BMs. Increasing the amount of fluid and fiber in her diet, and perhaps using a stool softener, can help make her bowel movements softer and easier to pass if this is a problem.

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