Aversion to the potty

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Registered: 03-31-2008
Aversion to the potty
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Wed, 05-26-2010 - 3:08pm

I'm feeling SOOO frustrated right now and hoping for some ideas...

This previous weekend, we decided to go ahead with the "Potty training in a day" method with my 2.5 y.o. DD (knowing full well that it would likely take more than a day, as she just doesn't drink/pee all that much). She has been part-time cloth diapered up to this point (wears disposable at night and when we're out of the house for more than an hour or so). She generally doesn't like the sensation of being wet, hates putting a diaper on, has shown excitement about "big kid underpants" and seems cognitively aware of how the whole "going in the potty" business is supposed to work.

So, we gave it a go this weekend. Made a big deal about being done with diapers, had her help "train" her doll first, the whole deal. At first, she was o.k. with sitting on the potty - but only when she didn't have to actually go. Fast forward five days, now she won't sit on the potty AT ALL. Every time when it was obvious that she needed to go, she would run around whimpering in pain, trying to hold everything in, until hours later when she would let loose on the floor. She was bare-bottomed at times, in underwear at other times. She clearly did not want to have an accident, but in the end it was preferable to going in the potty. We have tried every incentive, star chart, etc. we can think of. There doesn't seem to be anything motivating enough to overcome her aversion to the potty.

I'm ready to give up for a while and wondering if that's maybe the best thing to do in this case -- or maybe there's something we haven't thought of? I would love any advice.

TIA!

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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 10:22am
Hi, Jaime and welcome. It does sound as if Cate understands the concept. Does she have her own potty, or is she using the big potty? Some kids have a fear that they are going to fall in the big potty. If she has her own, maybe she would feel better on the big potty with the adapter seat. And it is okay put training off for a while too. Keep us posted on her progress!



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Registered: 03-31-2008
Thu, 05-27-2010 - 1:56pm

Hi Dana, and thanks so much for your response. Yes, she has both a little potty of her own and an adapter seat for the toilet, which she can choose between. She seems to be pretty averse to both. I think we are going to go ahead and take a break for a while. I feel bad, though, because now she's having a hard time understanding that it's really o.k. for her to go in a diaper again and is still trying to hold it in.

I'll keep you posted on any progress. Hopefully we'll see some sooner rather than later!

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