Backsliding today -- any ideas?

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Backsliding today -- any ideas?
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Tue, 06-16-2009 - 12:34pm

My DD is 19 months old. We got a potty chair last week and she has been very excited about going potty in it. She also has begun removing her diaper occasionally, so we thought this might be a good time to start training her. For the last two days, she has only worn diapers for nap and bedtime. Yesterday we had about a 50% success rate of going in the potty, and I cleaned up the accidents. Today has been more difficult. Since waking up at 8:00AM, she has had 5 accidents and NO times going in the potty (it is now 10:30AM). It's like overnight she's not interested anymore. I can hardly get her to stay on it more than 2 seconds, even with books, songs and cartoons. She doesn't seem to be happy about accidents, but not very unhappy either. Mostly they happen while she's squatting down to play, pick up a book, etc. Often she will come tell me afterward. During her last accident yesterday, she told me a split second before it happened.

Any suggestions? Is she not ready yet? Should I keep going or wait a few months? Should I offer rewards or treats?

TIA!
Julia

P.S. The fun part is that she is insisting in PTing her stuffed tiger now. It's awfully cute.

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Tue, 06-16-2009 - 8:38pm

Never mind. The rest of the day didn't improve much. I hate to admit defeat after only two days, but DH isn't very supportive and I don't think I can keep doing this. I feel bad, because I was so sure we could do it. We'll try again in 6 months or a year.

Or maybe I'll wake up tomorrow feeling amazingly optimistic and decide to try one more day. But probably not. I don't think I can do two days of this in a row.

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Thu, 06-18-2009 - 12:46pm

Oh, I hope you don't give up. I had a very similar experience (which I wrote about here a few months ago) when I was potty training my daughter back in April (she was 22 months at the time). I was very discouraged, but something on this board helped me, and that was a quote that went something like, "Any great achievement in the world happened when someone refused to give up when all seemed hopeless."

The pride I feel when I see my daughter at the playground wearing underwear along with older kids who still have diapers sticking out of the tops of their pants... it's worth all the pee stains I had to clean up. The first few days were brutal.

My advice is to offer whatever it takes to get her on the potty-- stickers, prizes, or in our case peanut butter M&Ms. Hope this helps!

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Thu, 06-18-2009 - 2:14pm
Thanks for the response; I really appreciate your encouragement. Sad to say I did give up about halfway through yesterday. She would tell me she needed to go, then sit on the potty for a few seconds before running down the hall with poop falling out of her onto the carpet! The one time she sat there for a few minutes, she got up and peed right next to the empty potty! I just don't know what's a normal learning curve and what means they're not ready. I figure I'll try again when she's a couple months older. Although your post makes me think again that maybe if we did it a few more days . . . :) I guess we'll see!
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Thu, 06-18-2009 - 3:14pm

Hello Julia.


I would suggest the naked method,right now,it is basically her timing is off.


being naked for a few hours a day lets her see what is actually happening when she gets those feeling,


normally,telling you she needs to go,is the last staep in the training,so you are already ahead.


As she is so aware of the potty,but is backsliding,this is normal for children in disposable diapers,May I suggest getting some thick cloth training pants and plastic panties for over them,and let her know that the diapers are for nap and night time only,I realy think you will find she will be more reseptive to going in the potty this way.


Please don't give up to quick,it sometimes takes a fair while before it realy hits home.


Please keep us up-dated.


Many Blessings.


Mac

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Fri, 06-19-2009 - 10:55am

Thanks so much, Mac and omg. I'm feeling far more hopeful since your responses and advice. We're trying again today, and plan to continue through the weekend. DH agreed to give it a chance and help out, and I believe he really will. I have the thick training pants, but the plastic covers I got make so much noise that she hates them and just pulls them off. They're Gerber Waterproof Pants. Is there a better kind I could try?

Thanks for letting me know that all this is normal. I think I'll do better this time with more confidence that we're on the right track.

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Fri, 06-19-2009 - 1:30pm

Hi Julia,I have found featherlite to be a nice quiet plastic,I have not used Gerber in quite a while,but used to find them pretty good.


Are your Gerber a heavier plastic?some of them get noisy after a few cleanings as the plastic stiffens.


I am not a great fan of the all-in-ones,as I find them to costly as once outgrown them,they are tossed.


with the regular plastic panties,they can be used