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|Tue, 01-27-2009 - 8:19pm|
I usually hang around the Baby Names Boards, but I decided to look around and found this one. Maybe someone has advice that can help me, because I am getting no where with potty training my son.
He turned three in October. We have been trying to potty train since he turned two and he started showing interest in going potty "like Mommy and Daddy". Before his baby brother was born in September he was doing pretty good, off and on. He was excited to sit on the potty, and usually went when he did. No #2's, but he peed in the potty. After his brother was born (which I know its common for them to regress after a big life change, but his brother is almost five months old now!) he completely stopped wanting to sit on the potty. We have to bribe him just to sit on it and even then, he rarely goes. The only progress we have made is he went #2 on the toilet two times. Each time he sat for awhile with a magazine and eventually went. We made a big deal of it, and he was really excited at the time, but later when we ask him if he wants to do it again its always "NO". He is starting to hide when he goes #2 in his pants, and then will tell someone to change him. I always thought this was a sign they are "ready", but he absolutely refuses to even sit on the potty most of the time. I'm beginning to worry he won't be able to start preschool next fall because he won't be potty trained. Another thing, for awhile he was staying dry at night, so in the morning I would put him on the toilet and he would go. That worked pretty good for awhile, but now he is wetting every night again. We've tried asking him to sit on the potty every hour just to try, but he says "NO" and gets mad if we push the matter. We've tried putting him in just underwear or letting him be naked around the house, but he won't tell us when he has to go, he just pees in his underwear or on the floor, and THEN comes and tells us about it. I'm getting frustrated, which I know isn't good, because you aren't supposed to show any frustration towards them when they aren't successful. Other people (including his doctor) has just said that he is normal and that when he is ready, he'll be READY. But I just don't know. I feel like I am failing, that I am not doing enough. He's big for his age, and its even getting hard finding diapers that fit him. We put him in Pull Ups sometimes, but he just thinks they are diapers, not "big boy pants" and will just go in them like diapers.
Whew, its good to get that all out. So what should we do? Just quit trying completely until he is "ready" whenever that is? And how will we know when he is ready? When he just starts using the toilet? Is there another method we should be trying? Help! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!