My daughter will be three on the 2nd of July.
Is she wearing disposable diapers/pull-ups,or cloth diapers/training pants or regular panties?
It is very
My 14.5 yo dd was born with similar problems. She has slow bowel motility as well as some neurological/sensory issues that makes her body fail to send the signal to the brain that her bowels are full, so her body doesn't naturally help expel the stool.
We successfully potty trained dd when she was 4yo. They key for us was not rushing it, the use of laxatives (which I expect your doc already has you using), working with body rhythms when possible, and providing lots of positive praise and rewards.
You can talk to your GI about increasing your dd laxatives while poop potty training if your dd shows signs of trying to withhold her stool. How much laxative you give a child is very individual to each child. The dosing guidelines on the laxative containers are general guidelines for average children. It doesn't account for children like ours who have medical problems or children who have powerful bowel muscle control who can withhold their poop. You just don't want to give your child so much laxative that they get chronic diarrhea and get dehydrated, but otherwise you can use the amount of laxative necessary to keep your dd bowels flowing (bm with pudding-like consistency or even a little softer if necessary). At one point my dd was using four doses of Miralax plus two senekot-s tabs every day and it still wasn't sufficient for her body. Obviously that would be way too much for your average child, but some children really do need more laxatives.
Admittedly we've had setbacks with dd over the years, but they can occur for a variety of reasons and not just potty training. Setbacks are definitely frustrating, but as dd has aged, we've had fewer setbacks and longer periods of success.
BTW, there's an "elimination problems" board here at iVillage. It's not super active, but it's nice to chat with other parents who understand the challenges you're going through! http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-pselimprobs