HELP am losing it, frustrated!!! :(

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Registered: 09-23-2006
HELP am losing it, frustrated!!! :(
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 7:55pm

HI everyone,

This is my first time posting on here, I have been reading some posts and I know I am not alone here in my frustration so that makes me feel a little better.

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Thu, 07-02-2009 - 11:37am


We went through this with my now 6 yr old when he was 3.

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Registered: 06-25-2005
Thu, 07-02-2009 - 4:55pm

I agree with the PP. I'd send the diapers and the undies to camp. It's possible that the peer pressure of the other kids will motivate her to use the undies, but if not, the camp will have the diapers available as needed.

As far as dealing with it at home, is your dd willing to poop in a diaper? If so, let her ask for one when she needs to poop. She's allowed to poop in a diaper or the toilet. If she does so, she can get praise, a sticker, special time with mom, or whatever. If she poops in her undies, she gets a negative consequence (loss of TV time, or whatever is motivating to her). This gets your dd out of the habit of pooping in the wrong place.

After a few weeks of using diaper for poop, when your dd asks for a diaper, take her to the toilet instead. Since she'll have asked for a diaper, you'll know her urge to poop is strong, so take advantage of it. If you think your dd will withhold her poop, you can give her a daily dose of a mild, non-stimulant laxative to prevent her from being able to withhold her poop. Some good non-stimulant laxatives are Miralax, Benefiber, Milk of Magnesia and Fiber Choice.

If nothing else works, you can try using pediatric enemas. By using pediatric enemas you control where and when your dd poops each day. It's a lot less pleasant, but it can be very motivating to some children to begin using the toilet voluntarily.

Best wishes.

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Registered: 09-23-2006
Fri, 07-03-2009 - 12:44pm

Thanks Kristi.

It is so hard not to be frustrated, because she is a smart little girl and for weeks she was fine telling me she had to poop or just running into the bathroom and then pooping on the toilet. I thought she really was getting the training down pat. Then I don't know what happened, I guess he realized she knows how to control it now and has figured out quickly it's a way to get my attention, like you said negative attention is still attention.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 07-09-2009 - 12:04am

Hello LM.

One tactic I noticed missing,once she poops in her underwear,wait until YOU are ready,then take her into the bathroom and strip her down and give her a slow,cool shower ( not cold )