HELP-Just started potty training!

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Registered: 12-16-2007
HELP-Just started potty training!
Sat, 04-24-2010 - 4:35pm

Hey Ladies,

I am not new to iVillage discussion boards, but I am new to this one. My name is Aubrey, I have a fiance' and our

*AUBREY* --- Mommy to Kadin, born on December 3rd 2007 & Korbin, born May 20th 2013!

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Registered: 02-04-2007
Sun, 04-25-2010 - 9:06am

Hi Aubrey. My DS is almost 2 1/2 and we had the same issue when we started. We did the whole potty party, worked with the doll, rewards, etc... and nothing really got through to him. He would sit and sit and sit on the potty and hold his urine until he got up. Once he was literally doing the pee pee dance on the potty because he had to go that bad : / What really worked for us was going nude from the waste down for a few days. For whatever reason he hates the feeling of the urine going down his leg w/out underwear on. I think initially just having something on felt enough like a diaper/pull up and he would just go.

I can also tell you that a "light switch" of sort went on about 6 weeks ago. He started staying dry for all naps and is now waking up dry 6 out of the 7 mornings of the week. I think all those neurons just had to connect.

We are still struggling with pooping. Initially we had no problems, but now he has decided he just doesn't have time to sit and poop and will hold it until he's constipated. He also still does not really initiate peeing until it's almost too late, so I still take him regularly. It's a process :) You will get there with your little guy!

Good luck!

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Registered: 06-25-2005
Sun, 04-25-2010 - 10:18pm

It's possible that your ds hasn't yet made the connection between cause-and-effect. The wetting accidents will help him develop that association. The PP suggestion of trying the naked method is also good.

With my kids I used the thick training pants (5-ply training pants) because they were more absorbent than regular underpants. You can put plastic pants over them (like what you put over cloth diapers) to contain accidents.

If you try for awhile with no success, you may want to take a break and try again later.

Best wishes.

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Registered: 06-25-2005
Sun, 04-25-2010 - 10:21pm

If your ds is holding his poop and becoming constipated, that can make pee accidents more likely to occur. And, of course, withholding stool and constipation are not good, either.

You may want to consider giving your ds a small dose of a mild, stool-softening type laxative while he is getting over his pooping fears. Some good ones are Miralax, Benefiber, Milk of Magnesia, and Fiber Choice (or other Inulin-based products). Stool-softening, non-stimulant laxatives are safe for daily use since the body does not become dependent on them (the body can become dependent on stimulant laxatives, so they are for occasional use only; stimulant laxatives are often senna-based products, tho' there are other types, too).

Best wishes!

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Registered: 05-02-2010
Sun, 05-02-2010 - 5:47am

I have a 2 years and 9 month old son and started putting him on the potty few days ago with few lucky catches. Today I took off his diaper during the day (he had pants on). He had several accidents but also did go to the potty several times and seemed to start to understand what he was supposed to do but the problem is that he asks for his diaper frequently and really doesn't want to give it up. What do I do? I don't want him to feel pressured in loosing his diaper but don't want to go back and forth and make him confused either. Do any of you know of a trick to ease him into taking off his diaper? He does not wear his underpants or pullups either. Should I just continue training him with diapers? I have heard that the training is very slow that way.

And what do I do when going out? Put him in a diaper? Wouldn't that confuse him again? I think that going back and forth would just reinforce the benefits of the diaper for him. And as I said he doesn't wear pullups and underpants either.


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 05-02-2010 - 2:04pm
Hello pz1352.
Let him have his diaper,but switch to cloth diapers,tell him they do not make his old type anymore that fit him,so if he wants a diaper,it will have to be the cloth type.
You could start letting him run around naked from the waist down while at home,so that he will see what is happening when he gets those feelings,if he asks for a diaper,you can almost bet he needs to go,so that is the time to put him on the potty,when going out,put a pair of plastic pants on over the diaper.
He should not like the idea of being wet,so he could catch on pretty quick.
I hope this helps.