keep going, or give up?

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Registered: 06-09-2006
keep going, or give up?
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Thu, 09-01-2011 - 9:41am
My son will be 3 next month. He's been interested in the potty since 18 months; he's been peeing in it at least once every day since then. Per the 3-day method's instructions, I attempted potty training at 22 months. He was in underwear for two weeks. He actually was 95% pee trained but he pooped in his underwear every day and I got tired of that, so I went back to diapers. I tried again half-heartedly in February when he was 2 years, 4 months, but he continued pooping in his underwear for several days so again I gave up. My almost 5 year old daughter was having a lot of pee accidents last week so I started using a timer. I set it for an hour and she did great with it and has been dry since then. I figured since my son is almost 3, I would just piggy-back his potty training at the same time using the timer. So he's been in underwear since Monday morning. I set the timer for 30 minutes and most of the time he pees and stays dry. He's been having 2-3 pee accidents per day. He just poops in his underwear, though. He doesn't seem to care at all. This time, I've been very calm and not angry at all with him, but I feel like I'm not making any progress. He never tells me he has to pee or poop, he just either goes in his pants or waits for me to tell him to go. So I'm just wondering if you feel that he's totally not ready yet, or if I should keep this up for a while. I'm really committed to it this time because of how old he is, but if I have to clean poop out of underwear forever, then I'd rather go back to diapers. I would feel awful for him, though, since he loves his underwear. What do you think? Thanks so much!!!

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Registered: 08-23-1999
Thu, 09-01-2011 - 3:16pm

Hello Sarah,welcome to our board.

As he is just about three,I would not stop,nor go back to diapers.

Buy about a half dozen pair of plastic pants,plastic only,not all-in-ones, put them on over his underwear and see what his reaction is to this.

There are teo more steps to the use of plastic pants depending on his reactions.

As for your daughter,have you had her tested by the doctor for diabetese?this could be a reason for late pee accidents.

Please keep us up-dated on what you try and how it goes.

mac

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Fri, 09-02-2011 - 9:08am
Thanks, Mac! (That's what I call my son, haha!) I've decided to definitely keep going with this, much to the chagrin of my husband. I'm planning to keep a closer eye on Malcolm and make sure he gets to the bathroom right after he has an accident. Yesterday aside from a poop accident he was totally dry, so I feel good about that!

That's a great tip about my daughter. Thanks! I'll ask about it at her next checkup, which should be in a few weeks.

Thanks again!

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Community Leader
Registered: 08-23-1999
Fri, 09-02-2011 - 1:20pm

Thank you for your reply Sarah,Please let us know what the doctor says.

And as for Malcolm,if he continues with the pooping,when he messes his pants,place him in the bathtub,strip him and clean both his pants and him with cool water ( not cold).

This could have the effect of taking time from play.

hope this helps,take care.

mac

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Thu, 09-22-2011 - 7:38pm
I wanted to post an update. We kept going with it and Malcolm is now potty trained! It took about 3-4 weeks, but he slowly got a lot better. He started pooping on the toilet last week. I think part of the problem was the pressure we were all under. The other thing is that he wants to go to the bathroom by himself, get undressed and be on the toilet alone, but I was always rushing in to help him. Yay for independence. :)

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Community Leader
Registered: 08-23-1999
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 1:47pm

High fives all around,always love to hear good news like this.

Enjoy the extra time you get for now,please don't be a stranger,pop in to say hi now and then.

Take care.

cl mac