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|Fri, 08-10-2012 - 12:29pm|
I am wondering what, if anything, I should be doing right now to help my DS with toilet learning. DS is 20 months old (yes, young especially for a boy). He goes to daycare and is in a clasroom with kids who are older, so he sees them use the toilet all day. He also goes to the bathroom at home with DH and me pretty much everytime, always has. We have always taken the approach that using the toilet and being the bathroom are a normal part of the routine--wiping, flushing, all of it.
I bought him a very basic potty chair several months ago when his daycare moved him into the classroom with toilets. He would take the potty chair apart, play with it, sit on it with clothes and diaper on. We told him he could use it when he wanted to. About a month ago, he started trying to take his diaper and pants off to sit on the potty chair, so we would help him. He actually pooped in the potty 2x over the course of about a week. We congratulated him, let him flush the poop in the big toilet and kept on offering to use the chair. He generally announces when he is pooping in his diaper and talks about poop and pee often, so we ask if he wants to use the potty at this time. We don't make him sit on it or have him on a schedule. Just offer and he refuses.
This week after he took a bath one night (maybe Wednesday) he was walking around naked and said "poop-pee" like he does. I offered to let him potty (we were in his bedroom by this point). He said no. I told him I would put a diaper on him so he could go in his diaper. He said no to that also. I told him that he could choose diaper or potty but that poop and pee belonged in one of those two places. (We use cloth diapers.) He walked over to the changing table, got the waterproof cover part of the cloth diaper off the shelf and put it on the floor, and then proceeded to pee on the water proof cover. I took the cover to the bathroom to rinse of the pee and brought his potty chair back. He took the top of and squated over the bucket part and peed into that 2x while he was hanging out in his room.
So I don't know what to do. I know that he doesn't really like to sit on our potty chair. I think it is too small for him since he is very tall and he has to pull his legs toward his chest to sit that low. Clearly, he has much more awareness of his functions then I thought, as long as nothing too exciting or distracting is going on. I also don't want to push him hard and have him resist, but I know he dislikes his diapers and trys to get them off whenever he can. He also complains at times about being uncomfortable with poop in his diapers. I think there are signs he doesn't want to be using the diaper, but clearly our potty chair isn't working for him.
Do I get a different potty, maybe a seat on our big toilets? Do I just let it be until he is really motivated to get out of the diaps? Any direction at this point would be appreciated.