At a loss- older trainer

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Registered: 02-15-2005
At a loss- older trainer
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Wed, 07-22-2009 - 6:34pm

Background:


My 5.5 yr old son was really hard to train. I unfortunatley started training him at 2.5yrs old and FINALLY (I thought) he was daytime trained at 4.5yrs old. Night-time is another matter and frankly as long as they sell GoodNites I don't care.


Now:


For the last 2+ months he has been having about 3 accidents a day. He may go a day and stay dry- but most days he is peeing in his pants- and maybe once a week he'll poop in his pants.


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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 07-24-2009 - 2:49pm

UPDATE:


I decided to ignore the accidents. He has a pile of underwear and shorts in the bathroom and he is responsible for the clean up and change. I am not punishing and not overly praising.


He has a watch with an alarm that is set for every 30 minutes. He has to go to the potty at that time. If he went recently and doesn't have to go he can wait until the next alarm.


Since I started this new game plan at 5pm last night- he has been completely dry. I don't know how long this will last- but I think this is the way to go. Meanwhile I try to compliment him on things he does well- boosting his confidence in all areas of his life. Remaining calm is the best route for me and for him.



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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-24-2009 - 4:40pm

Hello Sheryl.


I am so happy you have found something that is working,I have been wracking my brain since you first wrote.


My main problem was trying to figure out what might be allowed today,I use the old fashioned method on all ages,and a lot of them are thought of as to strict today.


I just wanted to let you know,we were not ignoring you.


Many Blessings.


mac

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 07-24-2009 - 7:02pm

Thanks Mac!


I actually discussed you rubber pants solution with my husband- it is a last resort. But I am thinking not making an issue is going to work for him. He did have 2 accidents today- but he went and changed himself (I didn't get a chance to notice the accident- usually I notice it and yell for him to get to the potty etc).


He has used the potty a lot today- even bowel movements. He seems happier calmer today- probably because I am calmer. So hopefully I can report in a week, month whatever that he is "cured".


That Potty Watch is working today- I am glad he is taking responsibility and I don't have to hound him all day.



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