At a loss potty training

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Registered: 01-26-2005
At a loss potty training
Sat, 08-13-2011 - 8:36pm

Hi everyone.

I'm having zero luck potty training a 2.5 year old boy.


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Registered: 10-21-2002
Sat, 08-13-2011 - 9:04pm you said..he is young..My oldest was nearly 3 before I even considered potty training..He may be physically ready but not mentally..or vise versa..if one part or the other is missing potty training just won't work...If its concerning you I"d take him to see his doc and just as for their advice..but in all honesty..they'll probably tell you that its nothing to worry about until about age 3..Ive also heard that girls are easier to

 BabyFruit Ticker
Community Leader
Registered: 08-23-1999
Tue, 08-16-2011 - 6:26pm

Hello foxfirespice.

In my days,almost all children,except those with medical problems,were trained between 18 moths and 2 1/2 years of age.

Of course,we used cloth diapers with rubber then plastic pants over what ever they were normally wearing untill they were fully trained.

Now,whith the disposibles,there is no insentive to train,they are to cumfy for the child and to easy for the mom,so why bother.

If you wish to try my method,buy him a dozen pair of thicker cloth training pants and a half dozen pair of plastic pants to go over them,I do not care for the all-in-ones,as he can out grow them to fast and they are exspensive.

If he is just going to hang around the house,just use the plastic pants with nothing under them,when he does use them,(1),he is going to be uncumfy and want a change right away,if he poops in them,take him to the bathroom,stand him in the tub and rinse the pants and him with cool water(not cold),after a few times of this,he will probably decide to use the potty instead.

It can take time when they get stubburn,but if you are consistant and not pushy,we can win.

Please Keep us posted on what you try and his reactions.

best wishes.


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Registered: 08-02-2010
Sat, 08-20-2011 - 1:50pm

Hi, I'm new to this board. DS will be 3 in Sept. We enrolled him in Preschool and he needs to be potty trained. We are using rubber pants and its a fight to get them on him. He hates them but we are sticking with it because we have a deadline and the pull ups are expensive. I take him to potty every 30 mins. He pees in potty and in his pants.

We are struggling we have been at this for a week. Any advice you can give me.


Community Leader
Registered: 08-23-1999
Sat, 08-20-2011 - 2:10pm

Hello Trixie,welcome to our board.

what is he wearing under the rubber pants? if it is a diaper,switch to thicker cloth training pants,if traing pants,have him go naked at home for a few hours a day,most will not pee on the floor,and learn to use the potty this way.

It is only normal for them to hate the rubber pants,it is one of the main reasons for useing them.

what routine do you use full time?

does he wear a diaper at night?

is he in underpants all day,and only puts the rubber pants on when going out or all day?

how long does he go to dayschool?

Please answer these questions,and I will see what I can come up with.


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-02-2010
Sat, 08-20-2011 - 7:04pm
Get up pee in potty put on regular underwear with rubber pants on top then shorts.
Diaper at night.
He is in rubber pants all day.
When I am not home DH put DS in diaper which has only been a total of 8 hours for the week.
DS starts school Sept 13 for 2 1/2 hrs in am twice a week,
I just have to get him to stay dry for 2 1/2 hours. Ds is really tough. In the morning he announces if he plans to pee his pants or use the potty.
I will try naked but we did this last week and he told DH he was going to pee on our bed. DH just laughed and DS went and pee on the our bed (DH's side)
Any advice would be great. This kid is tough DD wanted princess underwear and just started using the potty at 2 and that was that.
Community Leader
Registered: 08-23-1999
Sat, 08-20-2011 - 8:37pm

Hello trixie,As you mentioned,the naked method does not work with him.

Next thing is to get DH to work with you and be as consistant as you.

First thing in the morning,if he tells you he is going to pee in his pants,put on ONLY the rubber pants and tell him to go stand in the bathtub and pee,this way it is easy for you to change him and clean him at the same time,skip the short when at home,let him wear just the underwear and rubber pants.

any time he wets or messes his pants,just take him to the bathtub and wash him down,then redress him and carry on like nothing happened.

Take him to a dollar store to pick out a few $1.00 toys that he can only play with when on the potty,and give him a couple of m&m's if he produces while sitting, if he does not go,just the rubber pants till he does go.

remember,this is not punishment,this is what happens when you don't pay attention to your own body.

I hope this will help get him started.


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-02-2010
Sun, 08-21-2011 - 12:09am
thanks I will try it and let you know how it works. Thanks so much for responding to me everyone says wait and try again at age 4. DS went to a summer preschool trial it was only 2 x's a week for 3 weeks and was dry the whole time. So I know he can do it he doesn't want to. NO is his favorite word,
Thanks again
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-02-2010
Thu, 08-25-2011 - 8:01pm

Hi just an update. We are using regular underwear. DS agreed if he wets he has to go back to rubber pants. We also got a "potty watch", every time it chimes he goes potty and he has been dry for a couple days at home. We went are going to try going out with him tomorrow and see what happens. The potty watch is a timer goes off every 30 mins. He has started to just get up and go on his own with out the watch. So we will give up the watch next. I have hope we can get him potty trained by Sept 13 the first day of school. Its only 2 1/2 hours in the morning and the first 3 weeks there is a grace period.

Community Leader
Registered: 08-23-1999
Fri, 08-26-2011 - 12:08am

Hello Trixie,this sounds great,it looks like things are turning out very good.

Would you mind telling us where you got the timer watch?sound a lot better than the kitchen timer as he would have it no matter where he is playing.

The only thing I would say right now,would be to keep the rubber pants handy when he first goes to school,This is one area that could,at first cause a bit of a reversal.

Good luck.


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-02-2010
Fri, 08-26-2011 - 8:39am
Hi MAc
potty timer is at toys r us and buybuy babyfor $ 9.99. Buybuy baby let me use a 20% coupon toyrus would not. MIL saw a car2 one online for $20 but I was afraid we would get it and he wouldn't wear it.
Today of course he won't wear it and won't go on the potty so we are back to rubber pants. ITs one step forward and two steps back with this guy.
DD was so different but I guess every kid is different
I will keep you updated thanks for all your help