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Registered: 11-05-2008
maybe not the place .....
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Mon, 01-16-2012 - 3:10pm
Not sure where I would post this. But basically I am getting frustrated with DH's work schedule. He often doesn't get home until after DS bedtime including often on weekend days he works. DS is starting to ask about him at bedtime and u feel so bad. He still goes to bed ok but I am worried this is going to progress. I work late when I do but almost never miss bedtime.

The bigger part is that I am feeling completely alone in the potty training. DH is home with him all day one day a week which is great. DS hasn't had as much success with going in the potty with DH and I think some of it is less patience and accommodation. But I can't say anything to him cause in his mind he is putting forth the effort and doing all that.

Anyway I am just frustrated and wanted someone to talk to.

So far DS is actually doing really well. (He is just 2). Just started last week.
Siggie
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Registered: 11-05-2008
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 3:37pm
Thanks
Siggie
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Registered: 08-23-1999
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 12:58pm

Ok Kristy,now I understand it better,unfortunatly,There is nothing I can do for you for this,but I am always willing to listen.

I hope things work out for you all.

clmac

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Registered: 11-05-2008
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 11:47pm
Thanks for listening. I really appreciate it.
Siggie
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Registered: 11-05-2008
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 11:45pm
Unfortunately it is not fully the need to support though certainly maintaining a stable job that he enjoys is a big concern. He recently change locations within the same company and is much less miserable in his job than he was which thrills me! It really sucked before.

The problem is that to some extent ut is the nature of the industry. We all work long hours (I am in the same profession). I happen to be in an unusually accomodating place within that profession. But while I work 3/4 time the days I work are also long, I just work one fewer a week and it is slightly less long and I work a little closer to home which makes a big difference in commute time. I have occasionally missed bedtime because of being stuck at work late and even had to have daycare watch him late once or twice because of it. I do have the best daycare ever!

He tries to make it home but even if he gets out exactly on time (a rarity in our profession) it cuts it close and actually in that case I keep DS up about 30 extra minutes so he can see DH. He gets out early when he can buff he can't always be the one to leave early.

So bottom line is that it is not him feeling an unreasonable need to work those hours, it is just the nature if the beast. But I still get frustrated.
Siggie
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Registered: 08-23-1999
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 3:06pm

Hello Kristy,

This is very hard on everyone,I would think dh figures he needs to get all the money in he can,even if it takes him away from the family most of the time,unfortunatly,I don't think you could convince him to slow down as he has it in his head the one day is all ds needs to be reminded of daddy.

Do not worry about where to go to vent,I will be happy to listen to you and try to help if possible.

I do hope one day soon,dh will see how this is effecting ds,and he will try to find more time to be home.

Many Blessings.

clmac