My 3 year old son will not poop in potty

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Registered: 09-21-2004
My 3 year old son will not poop in potty
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Fri, 03-13-2009 - 10:01pm
My 3 year old son refuses to poop in the toilet. He has mastered peeing in it and stays dry all the time but for whatever reason will not poop in it. He still poops in his underwear or in a pull-up that I put him in at bedtime just in case. He will be 4 in May and is also in Headstart and I think he will be in Pre-K this coming Fall. He usually poops when
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Registered: 04-11-2004
Fri, 03-13-2009 - 10:10pm

tnsuperkitty, Hi and welcome to the Toilet Teaching board.

My advise it to have your DS ask for a pull up/diaper when he needs to poop. Have him stay in the bathroom, he can stand, sit on the floor, the tub, what ever, but he must stay in the bathroom while he poops. After a week have your DS sit on the potty with his pull up/diaper on to poop. After another week try cutting a hole in the middle/back of the diaper so when he goes most of it falls into the potty. Then after another week have your DS try without the pull up/diaper. If you see that he is still having some issues try putting a belt or tie something around his waist, as this will help relax the muscles that he needs to use to poop. I hope that helps. Please keep us updated on your DS progress.

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Registered: 06-25-2005
Sun, 03-15-2009 - 9:11pm

I agree with the PP. Allow your ds to ask for a diaper/pull-up when he needs to poop. You don't want your ds to get in the habit of withholding poop. It's not healthy, it can become a VERY difficult habit to break, and it can lead to bigger physical problems.

The PP suggestion of cutting a hole in the diaper/pull-up is a good one. If that doesn't work for you, another approach is to let ds ask for a diaper/pull-up for a few weeks until he is very comfortable asking. Then select a date to begin poop toilet training. On the designated date, when ds asks for a diaper, take him to the toilet instead. Since he'll have asked for a diaper, you'll know his urge to poop is strong, so take advantage of it. You can sit with ds, acknowledge his fears, let him know that he can do it, but insist he sit and produce on the toilet. If you think ds will try to withhold his poop, you can begin giving him a daily dose of a mild non-stimulant laxative while poop potty training to make it difficult for ds to withhold his poop.

My kids were fairly afraid of pooping for the first 1-2 weeks, and moderately to mildly afraid for another few weeks after that. I gave them daily rewards for 4-6 weeks (depending on the child) until they were well in the habit of using the toilet daily for pooping. I let the kids help pick out the prizes, and we kept them in the bathroom where they were clearly visible for encouragement. The first few days I gave them extra prizes to make it more appealing and less traumatic.

Best wishes.