Potty training HELP!
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|Thu, 06-04-2009 - 10:39am|
I am wondering if anyone has some guidance on potty training my three-year-old son. He turned three in February and we started training him in March. He actually asked to wear undies so I felt like I had to go with it and start. Here's what we've done.
When we started, I used a sticker chart and mini jelly beans. He would get a sticker for trying and one jelly bean for pee and two for poop. He was in undies at home and a pull-up when we went out of the house and for naps/bedtime. He quickly lost interest in the sticker chart and now we just use the jelly beans.
He never really made any progress. He has only actually told us he has to go a handful of times. Most of the time, it is me telling him to "take a potty break." I'd say 70% of the time he follows this direction and goes pee in the potty with no problem. But the other 30%, he cries and whines and tells me he doesn't want to or wants to go later. He has only pooped in the potty twice and I think they were both "accidents."
About a month ago, he started getting really bad and crying a lot when I told him to go. He was having a lot of pee accidents and didn't seem to mind at all when he had wet undies/pants. I didn't want it to become a power struggle so I tried to totally back off. Just put him in pull-ups and told him to tell me when he has to go. I find this very hard though b/c I feel like I am not helping him accomplish this goal. I'm not sure how to mentally "give up" this process. For now I have been still encouraging him to go and take potty breaks but not forcing the issue. If he tells me he doesn't want to, ok end of discussion. And if he has an accident, I try to just be calm and just change him and move on. However, he sometimes even resists me putting a clean pull-up on.
I can't seem to find a motivator that works for him. The jelly beans work