Stopped going poop in the potty
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|Thu, 06-04-2009 - 8:16am|
I am at my wit's end with this!
James will be 4 in September. We potty trained him in March, and he seemed to take to it very quickly. Had pee figured out in a couple days, then poop within about a week. He had accidents of course, but did really well. Then in April he went about 3 weeks or so without any accidents at all! I was so proud of him. Then something must have happened, or clicked in his mind, because he stopped going poop in the potty. THe pedi's office thought maybe he had gotten constipated and had a painful bowel movement and was now afraid to use the potty to poop. This made sense, since it started happening a few days after he started his "hunger strike" - he was being extremely picky and not eating nearly the same amount of fruits and vegetables. So we started being careful about his dairy intake, and we've been enforcing the fruits and veggies. Well, let's just say he is definitely not constipated yet he still poops in his underwear (and now often it is pullups as I have gotten completely disgusted by cleaning dirty underwear). Our other theories as to why he is doing this include 1) he is just in a "control" phase and this is the one thing he can truly control 2) he has a 1 yr old brother and sees that he still gets that diaper change attention 3)he is looking for more attention from us. We have been trying to give him more one on one time. The few times that he has pooped in the potty we have made a huge deal out of it. We don't get angry at him for soiling his underwear/pullup, but we do let him know we're disappointed and big boys don't do that (being a big boy seems to be a big sense of pride for him). It's been happening so long now I think it is just the norm to him. Has anyone else gone through this, and how did you resolve it? I am trying to think of a consequence for him that is not a punishment. A friend of mine made her daughter wash her own underwear when she was potty training, but I think that he is too young for that. (BTW he has continued to be almost perfect with peeing in the potty, even when wearing pullups).
Thanks in advance for any input you might have for me!!