stymied by 3 years and 8 month old boy
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|Wed, 05-27-2009 - 1:51pm|
I am very frustrated by my son's apparent lack of toilet training interest. He is 3 years 8 months old. His sister was born right before his third birthday and derailed the potty training efforts we had going (which was just sitting on the potty at bathtime, when he would usually pee.)
In February we started again, and went cold turkey to underwear. We had five days in a row where he never anticipated a single time. We backed off again until earlier this month. I took him to Target and let him pick out a toy he wanted. THen I told he he could get it after a week of successful potty use three times each day (he got a star each time, so he needed three stars/day for a week.) He did it, and way more than three times per day, too. Both No. 1 and No. 2, though more so No. 1. He needed to be prompted, but he did it with little resistance, both at home and daycare. We used a combination of diapers, pull ups and underwear, asking him what he wanted to wear and going with that.
Since he'd had greater success with peeing we decided to switch the reward to emphasize No. 2. We got a big jar of M&Ms, his favorite candy, and a small scoop. If he pees he gets one scoop, for poop he gets two. That worked for about a week. Still hardly any initiation on his part, it's mostly us knowing his routine and getting him there on time.
We went away over the holiday weekend, which I know can throw things off, but I thought he did OK. We brought his potty seat and he wore mostly underwear. had a couple accidents w/No. 2 but no peeing accidents.
Today, however, he's had two peeing accidents, which he hasn't had in about a week. He's also totally resisting going upon prompting. He appears indifferent to rewards (I offered to skip rest time if he'd go, that didn't do it.) Right now he's in a diaper in his room for rest time.
Thoughts or suggestions? We were about to go to the next level and do another toy store excursion for him to pick out a reward that would be given after he'd earned stickers for going by himself (without us prompting). But now I feel like we've totally slid backwards. I hear to give it a rest when things like this happen, but I don't want to slide further. How to get him back on track?