Thoughts

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Thoughts
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Tue, 08-28-2012 - 11:37pm

Ok. So DS turned 2 in January and at that time started potty training (his idea) and did really well till he lost interest completely. We didn't push it figuring based on things that other people said that he was on the young end of training. 

So, we had been thinking of getting started again. Today he showed some interest and so again I went with it. We spent the day home and a lot of time in the bathroom, reading. Last time we did this the key seemed to be reading books and he would sit on the potty until he got a big grin on his face saying he did it! 

I figured he is a little older now and not quite as excited by simply sitting on the potty so we had some new books and I introduced sticker (which he LOVES) as rewards. Little ones for trying and bigger ones for success on top of extensive praise and getting to flush the potty and such. 

He had 2 successes today. YAY! However, both happened when not reading to him. I think the reading is distracting him and he keeps jumping up in excitement or to point to something in the book (even if it is right in front of him). The just for trying stickers went ok but the success stickers started to result in a melt down because he wanted the whole page of them and couldn't decide which one he wanted. I had to distract him in an effort to keep the even from being unpleasant.

I am also looking for ideas on ways (other than reading) to keep him in place on the potty and engaged in what he is doing without putting too much pressure on him to perform. 

Thoughts on those two sticking points (and, heck, anything else anyone wants to throw out there :smileyhappy:)

Thanks!

Siggie
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Re: Thoughts
Fri, 09-07-2012 - 2:47pm

Hi Kristy,this is a problem,consistancy is a major part of the training.

Is everyone using the same system of diapering?do some use disposable diapers(pull-ups) and some cloth?diapers(training pants).

Find out how he does in each environment,where is he doing the best?

please keep us up-dated with this,and I will see if we can figure out what we can do.

clmac


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Sat, 09-08-2012 - 9:20am
Does best at daycare and home with me. dcp only had to change 1 diaper yesterday and that was the poop one! I do some bare bottom and some pullups. dcp will only do pull ups though as he gets better i do have some plastic training pants to try. don't know exactly why dh does worse. i suspect it is commitment and attitude. we have not even tried bringing petty training "on the road" yet.
Siggie
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In reply to: keeyamah
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 11:47am
With my DH I've had to be very specific about how often to take our older DS, how long to ask him to try for and even how to react when he does or doesn't go in the toilet. And luckily my DH is willing to listen to me and then he adjusts for him and what he is comfortable with (i.e. how he shows excitement that DS1 went successfully). I don't know about your DH obviously, but maybe taking a little time for a non-confrontational talk about what is and isn't working with. By this I mean talk about what seems to be working and not for you, at daycare and ask him what seems to work for him and what isn't. Just my 2c, hope it helps.
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Sat, 09-08-2012 - 2:12pm
Yeah. DH can be sensitive about perceived criticism and he is not stupid. even discussing it as what is working / not working will put him on the defensive. he works long hours and i think he gets frustrated with general day to day care for ds though in reality he is extremely good with him and i consider him the best daddy ever!
Siggie
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In reply to: keeyamah
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 5:08pm
Know that feeling, happens around here too, both from me and DH. We can both get very defensive very quickly.
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Sat, 09-08-2012 - 7:58pm
The best i can usually do is if we had a good day i gush about how it happened and what ds liked.
Siggie
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Sat, 09-08-2012 - 8:01pm
I tried to head it off this go around by going over how great the first day went and what we did. next day was with dh ... ds only even sat on the petty once with no production till i got home and he then peed in it before bed.
Siggie
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Registered: 08-23-1999
In reply to: mac179
Tue, 11-13-2012 - 1:22pm

Hello Kristy and Sara,sorry for not being of any help lately,a bit of health problems.

maybe instead of stickers,buy some small toy trucks and cars,something for him that he only gets to play with while sitting on the potty,these stay in the bathroom,just out of reach until he is back on,maybe something different for bath time as well.

if he produces,have a toy in wrapping(cheap ones)that he can take with him.

As for doing better for you than DH,this is normal,you were always the first to be with him from the start,at least he is working with dad most of the time.

Men do have shorter fuses in most cases,so additude,while working with children quite differant than mom,and the children know it.

Please keep us up-dated.

thank you both for all the help with running the board.

clmac