what are the signs of being ready?

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Registered: 02-11-2008
what are the signs of being ready?
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 11:15am

I don't really think my 2 and a half year old son is ready to potty. Then again, some days I do. What are the signs of being ready?

His boy cousin that is the same age goes to the potty and rarely has accidents. Meanwhile my son isn't trained yet and apparently the fault lies with me (I am so sick and tired of people asking why he isn't trained yet)

I let him sit on the potty when he wants to. He doesn't actually pee in it (I take that back, he has peed once)

I can sort of predict his bowel movements sometimes. I am not psychic, it's just that when he leaves the room to go to another one and slams the door, I know what he's doing.

Pee diapers aren't easy for me to predict. Sometimes he holds it for hours, other times, he pees 2x in 20 minutes.

Everyone keeps telling me to buy Pull Ups or just put him in the underwear. Once he's been wet a couple times, they tell me he'll start going.

I don't know if I buy that.

So what are the signs of being ready? When he is ready, how do I do it?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 5:18pm

Welcome ekusmma.

first off,next time they ask you,just tell them he doesn't want to and will train in his own time.

As for his being ready,yes he is,he has shown you that he knows when he has to poop by going out of sight to do so.

Stay away from pull-ups,they are nothing less that glorified diapers,and kids know it.

from this point on,let him know that diapers are for nap and night time only,get him some thicker cloth training pants and plastic pants,whether you use the plastic pants at home is a matter of the amount of clean-up you mind doing.But I would always use them on outings until he is trained.

Don't worry,he will train before you know it.

Please keep us up-dated.

Many Blessings.


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Registered: 07-05-2005
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 10:03am

Hi there-

Welcome to the board!

I wanted to share a link to you that has 10 signs of readiness for potty training.

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Registered: 02-11-2008
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 6:13pm

So what do you do? Do you just put them on the potty every so often? I mean I have no clue here.

It's strange to me. Because sometimes he'll say oh mommy, I pee peed. (this is when he has held it so long that when he lets it go, it comes out of his diaper because he has so much urine in him)

Other times though, if he's distracted, he would sit in his pee and poop all day long and not give a rat's bottom.

I think I'd prefer the plastic/rubber underwear anyway.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 08-01-2009 - 5:42pm

Hi ekusmma.

Lets start off with the kitchen timer,set it for about every hour to start and either race him to the potty or just tell him,that when it goes off,he is to run to the potty and sit for 5 minutes or unless he goes before,if he does not go,then you cut the time in half.

Once you start the timer method,give it a week to sink in,then,when he goes in his pants after that,Take him right into the bathtub,strip him down,if pee,he can be responsible for cleaning them in the shower with him,if poop,empty the pants into the potty and then have him help clean them,( after they have been cleaned by him,Have a bucket of water with bleach and put the cloth pants in this till you are ready to do the laundry)(do not put the plastic/rubber pants in the bleach).When giving him this shower,be sure to use cool( not cold) water and take your time,letting him know that he could be playing now if he had used the potty.

The cloth pants can be washed with any laundry using bleach,just toss the bucket and bleach into the tub.

the plastic/rubber pants should be hand washed with